18 Illustrations That Show What Bedtime Really Looks like in a Long-Term Relationship

18 Illustrations That Show What Bedtime Really Looks like in a Long-Term Relationship

When you have been together for a long time, you develop your own vocabulary of what is funny and comfortable. And you develop your own versions of romance and pillow talk.

Editor's note: This article was originally published on June 26, 2019. It has since been updated.

The longer you are together, the more comfortable you feel with your partner. Once a few years have passed, the quirky and weird part of you can be out in the open. You fear nothing because you know that your partner wouldn't judge you, no matter what. You can be uniquely weird together, in fact. Every couple develops their own boundaries. For some, making sex jokes with each other is funny, for some, being brutally honest about each other's physicality is okay. No matter what category you fall into, you two have a shared language, through body gestures and words, that is accepted.


You develop your own rituals that can seem strange to others but entirely natural to you. Whether you're washing dishes or going to sleep, every family has its unique way of doing things. This couple, Kellie and Pete, who is an artist, with their toddler Poppy, have their own comfortable space. They say and do things that many long-term couples might relate to. First and foremost, they keep the humor alive in their relationship. Whether they're in bed or just going about daily chores, the things they say to each other are the kind of funny only those who have been with their partner for years will understand.

Here are 21 illustrations that show us their quirky sense of bedroom humor:

1. When Kellie flails around to get the cover just right 



2. When Pete gave her a whiff of "fresh" air


3. How to say no to sex politely



4. How to cuddle on hot nights and not melt


5. How arguments can sometimes get out of hand and into the bed



6. When spooning is the answer to all troubles


7. How to have the "best" pillow talk



8. When you wake your partner up in the middle of the night with random noises


9. What daily bedroom rituals look like



10. When Cat loves showing his love at bedtime


11. When she gives the perfect massage



12. One last pee


13. When she shared the "leg of love"


14. Sharing a laugh together, at each other's expense


15. When sleeping together feels like sharing a bed with a human-sized hot water bottle


16. When you have too many worries that don't let you sleep


17. When they are your favorite person, and you let them know


18. When you just can't fall asleep without them