A kiss is a lot more than just the beginning of an intimate relationship.
Editor’s note: This article was originally published on January 21, 2021. It has since been updated.
According to the study, A Kiss Is Still A Kiss -- Or Is It?, conducted by psychologists at the State University of New York at Albany, 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women say they stopped pursuing a relationship because of a bad kiss. But does a bad kiss mean just a bad kiss? Turns out, a kiss is a lot more than just an act of physical intimacy, it can evoke emotions and sensations in your body and mind that makes you aware of your partner. "Kissing is part of an evolved courtship ritual," said Gordon G. Gallup, Jr, a researcher of the study. "When two people kiss there is a rich and complicated exchange of information involving chemical, tactile, and postural cues."
Therefore, it is safe to say, that through one kiss it could be possible to know a lot about the person you are kissing and vice versa. Especially, if you are in a relationship, kissing can be a way of communication. The way your man kisses you at different situations could give you cues about his mood, emotions, state of mind, etc.
So here are five things that you could tell about your man from the way he kisses you.
If he has a certain level of confidence while kissing you, it might mean that he is/will not regret it later. Is he shaky or unsure when he approaches you, or does he kiss you like you're his woman and a kiss could strengthen your bond? Answering this question will let you know how confident he is in the relationship and about you. If he is nervous and does not know how to channelize his emotions it might mean that he is still unsure or holding back. In a relationship, a confident kiss could help you feel better and closer to your partner in the most challenging situations.
Or will he be good at all! According to the study by State University of New York at Albany, "Male saliva contains measurable amounts of the sex hormone testosterone which can affect libido." Which means you can expect arousal while kissing your man but will the arousal meet a satisfactory end? While it is hard to tell conclusively if a person will be good in bed without actually getting in bed with them, you could get hints about the kind of physical intimacy you will share from their kissing techniques, interest, and passion. It's not the lips that give you the cues; pay attention to their movements. How they caress you, hold you, make you comfortable. It could give you the idea that they might do the same in bed.
Anita A. Chlipala, a licensed marriage and family therapist, from Relationship Reality 312, Inc., tells Verily Mag, “Someone who wants to keep kissing you is obviously enjoying the kissing and feels some chemistry." But are you feeling the same when he's kissing you? If yes, only then will it be considered as chemistry. Chemistry is something that goes beyond physical aspects. Your partner could be a bad kisser but if you feel a strong connection with him or if you feel comfortable to open up with him it could mean that you have good chemistry.
“We are taught that we should always follow our feelings and do whatever makes us happy. But feelings are very fickle and fleeting. Real love, on the other hand, is like the North Star in the storms of life; it is constant, sure, and true. Whenever we’re lost and confused, we can find strength in the love that we have chosen,” Your Life Isn't For You author Seth Aaron Smith writes for HuffPost. And the way your man kisses you could reveal if he is interested in committing to you or these are just fleeting moments of pleasure. If your partner is a good kisser it does not mean that he will have serious intentions for both of you. While it is hard to tell if one is interested in a serious relationship or not through just a kiss, these signs are clear red flags. "If you get a tongue in your ear and a hand creeping up your shirt, it maybe he’s trying to rush or is just interested in scoring. Wait for another real date (not just hanging out), and see if he’s consistently in contact with you—not just texting you last minute, asking if you’re available to meet up,” Anita A. Chlipala suggests.
It is important for you to notice if he follows your cues or only does what he likes. Does he follow your body language and try to play along? If the answers are positive you could be relieved. But if you notice him rushing, grabbing, or not acting as a team, it will be a big let down. Also, notice if he is appreciative of you. Does he look happy after you let go, does he look excited and have a twinkle in his eyes? It could mean that he appreciates the fact that you chose him to kiss you. This also reveals that he is considerate and respectful!
Disclaimer: This article is based on insights from different sources. The views expressed here are those of the writer.