Many men act like they value you and respect you when they're busy trying to woo you. However, if you find a man who continues to cherish you even when he knows he's gotten you, then you've got a keeper.
Editor's note: This article was originally published on February 15, 2022. It has since been updated.
Every woman dreams of having an understanding partner, who is truly her equal and treats her with respect. However, more often than not, respect, love, and trust are limited to the beginning of a relationship when he's trying to woo. Soon, the man that seemed like husband material turns into just another guy who neglects his partner.
Of course, every relationship has its ups and downs, but if a man truly values you, he's bound to do his best to keep you. No matter how old the two of you grow together, you know that he will cherish you just as he did when you started out. Here are six signs that you should look out for to gauge if your man is someone who'll value you for life:
For many women in relationships, one of the primary concerns after a few years of being together is that their partner doesn't listen to anything they have to say. Not only are many men dismissive of their women's opinions, but also their feelings. If your guy listens to what you have to say and even acts on what he needs to when you convey it, it is a sign that he really values you. He sees you as an intelligent person and believes that he can learn from you.
He doesn't just buy you small gifts and bring flowers home, he actually pays attention to what truly matters to you. There might be days when he surprises you by cleaning up the entire house or booking a trip to the place you've got on the top of your bucket list. When a man keeps making efforts to keep you interested in him, it means that he wants to make sure that you never leave him. He actually cares about showing you he's attracted to you and these things, in turn, make you feel attracted to him.
As equal partners, it is expected that your spouse or boyfriend would seek your opinion about the big decision they are about to take in life. Like taking a job across the country or buying a house, these are things that would overhaul your life. If he expects you to follow him wherever he goes, he needs to ask you first. When you find someone who actually cares about you and tells you before not after making the decision, know that you have found someone who really cares about you.
Being happy for their partner comes easily to women, but some men can show a streak of jealousy when their women are successful. If your partner is not just happy for your successes but also supports you and pushes you forward, know that you've struck gold. If he's there for you when you feel down and out, and picks you up from a bad funk, you're a lucky woman with a good man beside you.
If you're with a man who loves to see you happy, it's a sign of true love. If your happiness matters to him, then he really values your relationship. If he believes that his happiness is related to yours, you're with a good man who will always strive to keep you happy. If he says he's proud of you for all that you do and never pulls you down, you're definitely with a man who would stick by you through thick and thin.
These men are rare. If he doesn't check out other women in your presence or flirt with someone else whether you're there or not, you're a lucky woman. Real men are loyal and commit to only one person. There are many cheats around and maybe in the past, you have been hurt by your partner's wandering eyes. But if you find one guy who is loyal no matter what, never let him go because he is really into you.