Every woman expects support and respect from her partner. However, if your man doesn't know how to be happy for your victories he could be jealous of you, even if he doesn't know it himself.
When you win your greatest victories in life, you want your significant other to be a part of it and appreciate you for it. You don't expect them to downplay your success as if it doesn't matter at all. Every relationship requires mutual respect and support. As his partner, you expect him to celebrate your successes, and be happy for you just as you would be for him.
However, if he's not as kind to you when you achieve something on your own, your partner could be jealous of you. He may not even realize he is jealous of you but what he feels can become obvious when he displays certain behaviors.
If he can't respect your achievements or be happy for you and is belittling you or dismissing them as lucky when you poured your hard work and sweat into it, there are problems in your relationship that need to be addressed sooner rather than later.
If he does these seven things, he's definitely jealous and hiding it or is probably unaware of it himself:
You could be going about a normal day but he blows up at you out of nowhere. You have no clue where this is coming from or how to stop him from going on. The fight seems like it's about something larger than what he's letting on. It could be that you went out with colleagues or friends after a hard day's work and instead of being happy that you are letting loose and relaxing, you go home to a grumpy man. These signs are telling of the jealousy he harbors.
Lately, he probably has started behaving like nothing you do will affect him positively or negatively. He probably sits on his high horse and judges you from a corner without talking to you about what is actually bothering him. If he lets on that he is indeed jealous it would hurt his masculine ego that can't admit that he has feelings. He is also doing this to get a reaction out of you and expects to have a hold over you the moment you do start reacting. However, in this situation, it is better to stay away rather than engage in a fight. Because the moment you react, the power will be in his hands. It is better to give him space to think and process about the irrational feelings he has.
Since he doesn't realize that the negative feeling he has towards you is jealousy he will definitely not be talking to you about it. Instead, he'll pretend that everything is fine. This can't end well because nobody addresses the feelings and they get bottled up. So, it is likely that he will act in a passive-aggressive way, which you can find confusing because you didn't really do anything to anger him.
He could be acting like a jerk and ignore you while you're around. But he knows everything that is going on in your life and work by keeping abreast of your social media. He could also be checking your phone to know who you're speaking to and what you tell your friends about him. He is probably very insecure by your successes and the only way he knows how to express them is through negative attitudes like these.
If he can't get over the feeling of jealousy for a long time it is likely that he will start to pull away from you. The only way he knows how to process his feelings is by distancing himself from you rather than addressing the problem and talking about it. However, make sure you talk to him about why he is behaving this way, instead of doing what he's doing to you. The latter is not a mature way to deal with it and will certainly not give you the desired results. However, be sure not to stop being your amazing self just to make space for his feelings. He should be able to accept your victories as you do his. It's a partnership, not a competition.
He likes the power struggle of you seeking his attention and wants you to chase him for his approval. However, you don't need his validation to know what you're doing is good for you. If he can't be an adult in the relationship, it might be better for you to let him go.
If he's negative not just of your achievements but also about things you like, that can be a sign of jealousy too. "If you decide you love opera and your partner decides to start mocking operas, well, that is a form of jealousy," zen psychotherapist and neuromarketing strategist Michele Paiva tells Bustle. "It is highly threatening to them in some way if they do not have the hobby and you are learning more or being happy without them; and if they have the hobby, they may see you as competition."
Reference:
https://www.bustle.com/articles/163896-11-signs-your-partner-has-unhealthy-jealousy
