It's not going to be a smooth ride always. There will be rough patches, but if it is meant to be, then fight for the relationship with all you have got.
"Love is like religion. You need to have faith before miracles can happen." - Michael Faudet
What most of us don't understand is that a relationship is not the destination of love, it is just the beginning of a life-long journey. A journey that has its ups and downs. A journey filled with smooth roads that hit a few bumps now and then. But does that mean the journey has to come to an end?
Here are few signs in a relationship that indicate that you must not give up on your partner even though you seem to have hit a few rough patches.
Do you feel different around your partner? More in touch with yourself, your true self? Well, this feeling is priceless and you can't afford to let go of it because of a relationship bump that overthinking has turned into a mountain. There are certain things that no one else can make you feel, so it will be your loss to let go of a person who feels like home. If you feel like your definition of "good time" is incomplete without them, then they mean a lot more to you. You will fight occasionally, sure. But that is trivial and should not take away from the enriching experience you have with them when you are together.
Don't give up on them if you are constantly learning from them. If their values, etiquette, habits, etc. make you want to be a better version of yourself, don't let them go. If they help you grow and evolve as a human being, they are, in fact, helping you heal and connect with your inner self. It's not every day that we come across people who appeal to our spiritual senses, if you have got yours, for the love of God, don't let them go!
A relationship is about doing little things together and cherishing the little moments. So if you find happiness in doing household chores with your partner or singing your favorite song or dealing with a financial crisis together, you are the perfect team that can beat any curveball life throws your way. It also goes down to an emotional level. On your worst days, is it only them you are looking for? Is it only them who would understand the true meaning behind your impulsive 'leave me alone!' Then they are your most valuable asset. Not just that, making each other feel young, confident and sufficient is what a team does and that's what should make you want to hold on to it.
A lot of people complain about the lack of spark in their relationship after a certain point in time. It is indeed a blessing if your partner still makes you swoon with their sheer charm and aura. Now, who does not like to be swept off their feet? If you still feel like a princess/prince charming every time they do something sweet or thoughtful for you, that's the moment you say, they are my soul mate!
Nothing causes the death of a relationship quicker than disrespect. We are proud individuals, dealing with the hardships of life and shining above all, our self-respect is the base of our personality. If you are with someone who understands this, you are luckier than you think. Even during arguments, if they refrain from saying things that would cause a blow to your dignity, they are not mean, truly! They respect you and the relationship.
Many times, two people fall apart just because they were too egoistic to make the first move. Most of the time we don't need grand arrangements to win us over, small efforts, intimacy, quality time spent together or just the first "I'm sorry" message after a fight works wonders. This is all we want. Before expecting something of the other person, ask your self, "Have I done my part?" If your partner understands the value of the first move, a small but important effort, you've got to fight for your relationship even if you are going through a tough time.
Insecurity not only makes a relationship bitter, but it also makes the two people turn against each other. You need to understand this, they are your people if you can't trust them, maybe you are the one weighing the relationship down. If your partner trusts you, they are actually expressing how important you are to them. A secure partner makes you feel secure and comfortable with who you are and what decisions you make. Cherish them!
Disclaimer: This article is based on insights from different sources. The views expressed here are those of the writer.
