Trust is not an easy thing to come by. It has to be earned and with your partner, it's these eight things he does that shows you he's definitely earned it.
Editor’s note: This article was originally published on August 21, 2019. It has since been updated.
"After all, damn it, what does being in love mean if you can’t trust a person." – Evelyn Waugh, English writer
Trust is one of the most integral factors in any relationship, whether it is with your parents, friends or children. But it holds even more value when it comes to your partner. You and your partner can be in love but how does it hold if there is no trust between you two? According to Psych Alive, relationship expert Shirley Glass points out that “intimate relationships are contingent on honesty and openness. They are built and maintained through our faith that we can believe what we are being told.”
But then comes the question - how do you know if you can truly trust your partner? It's when he does these eight things that you know you've made the right choice.
When he said he would take care of you in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad and for better or worse, he meant it. He puts you at the top of his priorities and you know you can count on him to be there when you need him. If you're having a bad day or want to share the good news of your promotion with him, he's right there with you.
He isn't afraid to be emotionally vulnerable with you. When he talks to you, there's a sincerity in his emotions that you can't deny and you know he's trusting you with his true personality. He gives you the chance to actually know him properly instead of you having to guess at what he's feeling. And you're the first person he comes to when he needs to talk his heart out.
There are days you just need to rant and to someone who will listen, even if they don't respond. Your partner is that someone. When you need to destress and let out everything that is bothering you, he genuinely listens to you and at the end, if you want a solution, is more than happy to help you find one.
The truth can hurt, but he knows that he'd rather be honest with you than lie and break your trust. He wants you to know everything he's feeling or doing. Even if it is something as simple as giving you an opinion on your dress, he will be truthful about it.
There is no blame game that occurs in your relationship. Like you, if he makes a mistake, he owns up to it instead of pointing fingers at someone else, namely you. More than that, once he accepts ownership of his behavior, he does his best to make amends, even if it takes a while.
And it's not just you that gets the feeling that he is someone to be counted on. It's your friends, your family, his friends, colleagues, everyone. The fact that he doesn't gossip, back out on his promises or treat people unkindly is only testament to his reliability as a person. It's why others like him a lot too.
He sees you as an individual and more importantly, as an equal. He knows that you are a smart and strong woman who can take on the hurdles that are thrown in your direction. So, when you make a decision, he supports you in it. He might be brutally honest of his opinions about it, but that adds to his ability to be trusted.
Whether it's an intense argument or a cold-shoulder treatment, it doesn't last for very long. That's because rather than letting misunderstandings and anger break down the relationship you share, he would rather talk it out. You both might need time to simmer down, but you know that you can always go back to a calm discussion with him and fix the issues.
Disclaimer: This article is based on facts collated from different sources. The views expressed here are those of the writer.