We loved them and cared for them. Now, that we have moved on, the people we left behind for not treating us right would be left with regret because only after losing something good do they realize its value.
Not all the relationships we have had were pleasant. Some of the men may have been really disappointing and in hindsight, we are glad that they are gone. However, when we were in those relationships, we loved them and cared for them. Now, that we have moved on, the people we left behind for not treating us right would be left with regret because only after losing something good do they realize its value.
They did not care about the affection, love, and tenderness we showed them despite their stubbornness. And even if they come back looking for us, there is no chance that we will take them back.
Among all the men who will be filled with regret for losing us, here are eight:
We do the things we do for our partners because of love, not because we are obligated to. The effort we put in needs to be acknowledged and reciprocated. We can't be the only one giving. Men think that we give because we are supposed to not because of a choice we make. He basked in your love and care when you were there but was lost when it was gone. And, now he will regret assuming that it was easy to come by. Your love is not cheap or common, and he knows that now.
For some men, controlling their partners is the ultimate way to assert power in their lives. For him, the relationship was more about making himself feel bigger and you lesser. His feelings were not real, they were colored with his negative outlook on relationships. Everything he did was to gain control on you and make you beg for his validation. He didn't care for the hurt he made you feel and now that you are gone, he will regret his insensitive ways.
He thought you wouldn't survive without him because of his inflated ego. And in turn, he thought less of you. He tried to make you doubt your abilities and tried to crush your enterprising and independent spirit. He thought that he was the only one holding you up and that your world revolved around him, but he could not be more wrong. You were independent then and you are so now too. Your life is good even without him, and he knows that now.
You were kind and sweet to him and his family and friends, but he took it as meekness. He thought you would follow him to the end of the earth and he could boss you over. You were not weak, never. You were kind and you believe in treating people right. Something he never understood and mistook your good behavior as fragility. Now that you are gone he knows how wrong he was. You knew how to stand up for yourself all along, you just wanted to give him more chances to change his ways.
A relationship is meant to be based on trust and when someone repeatedly breaks his promises, the trust fades. He put other people and things above you and never made enough time for you, even when he promised to. Talking to him and addressing these issues were pointless since he said something and did something else. However, one can't suffer fools and you let go of him on time. But he is still regretting losing you.
To him, you were a backup. Instead of treating you as an equal partner in his life and the most important person, he prioritized others. You tried long and hard and made him your priority but the same can't be said of him. But there aren't many who can be more caring and loving than you are. Now that you are gone, he knows what he has lost.
There are many men who think they are better and more intelligent than women, but you showed him that he is wrong. He tried to fool you and thought you were too naive to catch on to his inauthenticity. He did not take you seriously and he is filled with sorrow because of that. He lied and used you, thinking that you would never catch on but that is not true. You saw through the lies and moved on. He is alone now, hoping that you had never left.
Women are more resilient than men. They are patient and have fortitude, but they can't accept someone disrespecting them by not making them their priority. In a good relationship, partners value each other instead of casting one aside while going after other things in life. He put other things first instead of you and kept you waiting for a long time. However, you are precious and he doesn't realize that losing you would be the biggest loss in his life, more than the money or power he keeps running after.
Disclaimer: This article is based on insights from different sources. The views expressed here are those of the writer.
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