Kate Hudson, daughter of Goldie Hawn, is an actress, mother, and entrepreneur. She balances being all three along with raising her children.
Celebrities and ordinary people share some of their concerns, one of which is about being a working mother. Then, imagine being a mother-of-three with a full-fledged career and plans of having more children. When you put all of that into a cauldron, we get the famous Kate Hudson, who was raised by her mother, a strong woman, Goldie Hawn.
After having two boys, Kate wanted a girl, she told the Times in 2018. "We'll see how many Danny [her partner] wants," she said. She cedes to being an unconventional mother but she loves her children to bits. Her daughter, who is 10-months-old now, was born that year.
She balances being a strict mom with being a fun one. "I was really young, like, 23, when I had Ryder. So, our relationship has always been [a little unusual]," she wrote in an essay for InStyle. "I mean, we're close, and I am his mom. I'm big on manners. I'm big on politeness. I'm big on gratitude. But I'm a bit of a wild mom."
Just like any other mother, she has her doubts about going to work leaving them home. “Some days I feel like I should win best mom of the day award, and some days I find myself doing strange things that don’t have any real purpose, in faraway corners in my house, and I realize I am literally and deliberately hiding from my children," she wrote.
She went on to talk about feeling pressured by society to be a certain kind of mother, even though that is not her. “Even though every primal ounce of the nurturing, domestic woman in me gets pulled, I’m a hunter as well. And I love to hunt! And as a woman I feel that somehow we are supposed to feel apologetic about wanting both. But I don’t want to apologize for that anymore. Being both already comes at an emotional cost, without adding society’s antiquated idea of the traditional roles of man and woman in the home," she continued.
And, just like any other mom, who would like to do other things with her time but spends it with her child instead, she got real, and wrote, “Yes, I help my kids with their homework. But I also get bored doing it. I will sit and listen to my children pontificate and discuss their ideas till the day is long because it warms my heart, but I really don’t want to do math! I’m gonna say it: I’d prefer to watch 'The Bachelor' rather than do fractions and divisions.”
Women shouldn't feel they are bad mom's just for thinking they would do something else. They are humans as well, and there is a fine line in thinking about it and doing it. She also explains that she won't be the "best mom" if she suppressed her creative endeavors.
"I would feel an emptiness that would be felt in our home. So a stay-at-home mom will never be my life and that will never be my kids' experience of me," she added.
She might feel it daunting to be a mother of three, but she wants more. She has found joy and happiness in her children even though it can be a bittersweet journey.
"I really want more kids. You know, anywhere between four and six,” she told SiriusXM radio host Jennifer Hutt in a February 2016 interview. "I just love them [kids]. They're a pain in my a**, and they're the best pain in my a** ever."
"I just love every bit of it," the Almost Famous star continued. "I love the insanity. I love the chaos. I love laughing with them. I love when I gotta raise my voice at them. I love gathering them all together. I love when I have all the kids."
References:
https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/kate-hudson-only-women-get-called-control-freaks-fpx8vb5tc
https://www.instyle.com/news/kate-hudson-sometimes-feel-bad-mom-instyle-essay