Have you ever come across someone like this?
Editor’s note: This article was originally published on November 26, 2019. It has since been updated.
Finding the right person to be in a relationship with is hard, especially when you find that your partner is more obsessed with themselves than your connection.
According to Mayo Clinic, narcissistic personality disorder "is a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of extreme confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that's vulnerable to the slightest criticism."
Here are six signs that prove you may be in a relationship with one such person:
1. Conversations are always only about them
No matter the conversation, they will make sure it gets to a point where it is about them. They dislike and avoid two-way conversations. They interrupt story about you to bring back attention to themselves. They might correct you, dismiss you, or simply ignore you if you have a different opinion.
2. They lack empathy
Narcissists don't have genuine affection or love toward anyone. They might seem cold and detached when you need emotional support. They might pretend to care for you, but they only really care about themselves in reality, according to Economic Times. This is mostly because they have difficulty making a sincere apology and accepting responsibility for any harm they cause.
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3. They only care about what's on the outside
People who are obsessed with themselves only care about their own appearance, beauty, and social status. They are quick to criticize any perceived flaws in other people. They also pay a lot of importance to materialistic things, because that's what they think completes the whole "look" that makes them feel superior.
4. They gaslight and control you
Gaslighting is a type of narcissism in which the person focuses on gaining power over their relationship. A narcissist uses this method to deceive their partner's perspective of reality that make one feel insecure. They influence how they are viewed by others by controlling people and situations.
5. They are skilled manipulators
No matter the occasion, they can always make something seem like it is someone else's fault, even if it is completely their mistake. This involves portraying themselves as a victim of unfair circumstances. That's just how talented they are in playing the blame game. They will eventually try to control you so they always have their way.
6. They have no sense of boundaries
Narcissists think that the world revolves around them. Since they don't know what boundaries are, they don't know how to respect them, either. Even if you tell them you are uncomfortable with something if that is what they want to do, then that is what you will end up doing.
Do you know someone like this in your same?
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