Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher were married for 8 years but right after their honeymoon phase got over, their relationship started to run into trouble.
Editor's note: This article was originally published on December 31, 2020. It has since been updated.
Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher seemed like they were meant for each other at one point, inseparable as they were. But things weren't what they seemed. The actress admitted that she was "addicted" to Kutcher to the point where she started ignoring her daughters. As Moore became more and more co-dependent on the actor, the more distant he grew. Soon he started lying and making excuses to get some space, Moore revealed in her memoir Inside Out. “Every one of his actions was saying ‘please don’t love me,'” she penned. “But unfortunately, for both of us, I did.” Soon, Kutcher cheated on her with two women and didn't hesitate to admit it either, reported PEOPLE.
During an interview with Diane Sawyer for ABC's Good Morning America, the Ghost actress revealed that she found out about his cheating through Google alerts, following which she immediately confronted him on a call and "asked if it was true." Recalling the moment after Kutcher admitted to his deed, Moore said, "I think my response was, 'Are you f****** kidding me?' That was it. And I think I could barely take a breath."
The Jobs actor became distant from Moore as time went by. “Ashton was less and less present,” she wrote. In an attempt to save their marriage, Moore decided that she wanted to have a baby with Kutcher. Unfortunately, she suffered a heartbreaking miscarriage that left her devastated. “I tried to allow myself to mourn, but it was so confusing. How could I grieve a person who’d never been in the world?” she penned in her memoir. She eventually decided to use an egg donor.
Elaborating, Moore wrote, “I was still desperate to have a baby with him. I had finally overcome the huge obstacle of my resistance to using an egg donor. I started scouring the agency lists for the right fit, sharing the most promising prospects with Ashton, and hearing his thoughts."
When the A Few Good Men actress found the perfect donor, Kutcher agreed and said, "We should go for it.” However, a few days later he backed out and said, “I don’t think I can do this,” he said. “I don’t know if this is working.” Moore described the news as if "the wind had been knocked out" of her. “I asked him why he’d let me research a donor, go through this very painful, prolonged process, and make myself vulnerable in this way if he wasn’t up for it. His response was simple: ‘I never thought you’d go through with it,'” she revealed.
As time went by, Kutcher only grew more distant from Moore. It soon reached a point where they weren't even on talking terms. “I looked at Ashton as I entered the room, and I felt a chill go through me. His eyes were icy, dead. It was like I was seeing the coldest person I’d ever encountered- nothing like the man I fell in love with years earlier. And it was certainly not like looking into the eyes of someone who loved me,” she wrote, according to Cheat Sheet.
And then Kutcher said something that Moore feared to face. “That night, he said ‘I think I should move out,'” revealed the actress in her book. Completely shocked, she replied by saying, “We’re married. That’s not how we do things. How did this go from us having issues we need to work on to ‘I’m moving out?'” Taking the help of a counselor didn't work either. “It didn’t matter. He didn’t really want to work on our relationship. He was done. I was still very much in our marriage, but I was in it alone now.”
The pair finally got divorced in 2013.
The actress has understood that "I belong. Here. In myself. In this house. On this planet. I’m in my mid-50s now, I’ve outlived both of my parents, I know that what I walked through was a lot, especially coming from where I came from. The truth is, the only way out is in."
References:
https://people.com/movies/demi-moore-says-her-desire-for-another-child-put-a-weight-on-ashton-kutcher/
https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/demi-moore-discovering-ashton-kutchers-affair-google-alert-1242881
https://youtu.be/umJrsq3ksGA
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