Since they knew about Dante's aneurysm, they had done everything to be careful so he could have a long life ahead, but in vain.
Weddings tend to be hectic, and both the bride and groom experience a myriad of emotions. Tempers run strong and tears flow freely, and the blame is thrown around like confetti when the slightest inconvenience happens, but one bride took things too far when she blamed her dead brother-in-law for ruining her big day, by dying.
A heartbroken woman took to Reddit to share how she was left shocked after her brother-in-law's new wife made some rather insensitive comments about her husband's death.
"My brother-in-law (Andres) married his long-time girlfriend (Bea) last year. The wedding was held 30 mins from the city by boat. During the reception, my husband (Dante) collapsed. His brain aneurysm ruptured and he never made it to the hospital," the OP shared on the AITA thread.
Things initially went smooth, as, on the "First day of my husband's wake, Andres and Bea came. Andres had been crying, I noticed how he looked like he hasn't had any sleep. Bea gave me her condolences, and placed flowers beside my husband's casket."
The newlyweds made sure to stay around all the time so that the grieving woman was not alone. After all, it was the groom's brother that had passed.
But soon after, Bea began to complain. "On the 4th night, while I was making myself coffee, Bea approached me and started telling me how terrible things had been. Dante dying on the most important day of her life. I told her how devastated I was."
Since they knew about Dante's aneurysm, they had done everything to be careful so he could have a long life ahead, but in vain. "We have always been careful since the day we found out about Dante's aneurysm. He quit his job as a physics teacher at our local high school 3 years ago. We visit our GP regularly just to make sure that everything is going well," shared the widow.
Bea, apparently, did not know about Dante's condition and cut the woman off while she was talking, and proceeded to blame her and her dead husband for ruining her big day.
"Bea cut me off and asked me "so you mean you knew about the aneurysm?" I told her yes and that he had been taking medication for it. She said Andres never told her about it. She continued by saying it was reckless of us to dance and drink when we know about Dante's condition (he only had a glass of champagne). I asked her what she means and she basically told me that had she known about my husband's illness, she never would've invited us to her wedding. She said we ruined her wedding."
Since Dante had to be rushed off the island to get him first aid, the wedding reception was cut short and Bea was sore about that.
"Andres was so worried to even focus on his new wife. I told her to leave before I forget that she was ever my friend. She didn't listen and continued telling me how expensive her wedding was and that by ruining it, I owe her half of the expenses. I shouted at her and told her to get over herself."
"My in-laws heard us and came to stop everything before it escalated. I told her to leave and never come back unless she apologized. My in-laws who still didn't understand what's happened told Andres to take Bea home. Both MIL and FIL were upset with me for causing a scene in their son's wake. I didn't tell them what Bea said. They only found out after Andres told them. He and Bea had a fight and they had moved their honeymoon which was supposed to be a month after we bury my husband," she added.
What's worse is that the bride still hasn't apologized for her insensitivity. "Until now, we still haven't spoken. I don't go to family dinners anymore but I still have a good relationship with my in-laws. I do believe that I have all the right to be angry at Bea but I also want to make my in-laws happy. They have been nothing but good to me and unless Bea and I make up, there will always be tension in our family."
As expected, fellow Reddit users were quick to side with OP and tell her she is not at fault for reacting the way she did. After all, she just lost her husband in an accident that was no fault of hers, or anyone's for that matter.
Honestly. who do you think is at fault here?
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