The woman had specifically told her husband-to-be that she didn't want cake on her face.
Editor's note: This article was originally published on February 11, 2022. It has since been updated.
Sometimes, all it takes is one mistake to doom a partnership. This is why one bride walked away from her marriage the day after the wedding. On January 13, 2022, Slate magazine published a letter from a newlywed who wrote into their "Dear Prudence" advice column. There, the woman shared that getting married was not her priority in life, but it was something she was not completely against. So, when her boyfriend proposed to her in 2020, she accepted, and each partner took on half the responsibility for planning the wedding.
"I think I was pretty reasonable about compromise when he really wanted something. My only hard-and-fast rule was that he would not rub cake in my face at the reception," she shared.
On the day of the wedding, the groom took her request into consideration, and instead of smearing her face with cake, he smashed her face into it. "Being a reasonable man who knows me well, he didn’t. Instead, he grabbed me by the back of the head and shoved my head down into it. It was planned since the cake was DESTROYED, and he had a bunch of cupcakes as a backup."
The furious bride not only left the reception but also told him the next day that they were done, too. "I am standing by that," she wrote. But people have been trying to coax her into giving him another chance and moving on from what happened. "The thing is that over the holidays, EVERYONE has gotten together to tell me I should give him a second chance. That I am overreacting because of my issues (I am VERY claustrophobic after a car accident years ago, and I absolutely panicked at being shoved into a cake and held there). That I love him (even though right now I don’t feel that at all), he loves me, and that means not giving up at the first hurdle. I don’t want to, but everyone is so united and confident in their assurance I am making a terrible mistake that I wonder if they are right."
But, Prudence's reply might have shed some light on the woman who was probably very conflicted. "I think what he did was a red flag about not respecting you and your wishes—to say nothing of the physical aggression—but even if it wasn’t, the fact that you really didn’t like it is enough. Make a mental note about which of your loved ones don’t seem to value your happiness, and continue with your divorce," the advice read.
It's better for the marriage to end than keep trying to fix it, right?
References:
https://slate.com/human-interest/2022/01/dear-prudence-wedding-stunt-goodbye.html
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