The bride wants her wedding day to be all about her and her man and no one should mess with that.
Editor's note: This article was originally published on February 3, 2022. It has since been updated.
A wedding is meant to be an incredibly special event for the bride and groom. A lot of planning and precision goes into ensuring that it turns out to be a memorable day in the couple's life. There have been many instances where brides have come with unrealistic expectations from their guests, but one woman who is set to marry the love of her life has set down some rules that are resonating with others online, according to PEOPLE.
A while ago, Jasmine Cruz took part in a social media challenge where she shared a few of her "very real" guidelines for those attending her big day. Using the green-screen effect to post a screenshot of her policies written in the Notes app, Cruz shared that she's currently engaged and has plans to enforce these when she gets married later this year.
Bride-to-Be Goes Viral After Sharing Rules for Her Upcoming Wedding: 'Don't Bring Random People' https://t.co/t9PAQcG4oD— People (@people) February 2, 2022
"I saw the trend going around when I started wedding planning. Since I already had some stuff laid out I decided to add to it," Cruz said. "I'm one of those girls who has thought of her wedding day since I was a kid. So I have a picture of what I want the day to be. I wrote down all these different ideas and it eventually became the rules that I posted."
"No kids (some exceptions)," read her first rule. "Let's start there because everybody gets mad about this one. No kids," she said in the video, adding, "I don't want kids running around unattended, their parents not watching. That will absolutely not be happening."
Since most of Cruz's siblings are under 15, they will be a part of the wedding, thus making them the "exception." She also shared that people coming from out of town are allowed to bring their children if they can't find a babysitter. "They gotta be watching them though," she noted.
Cruz then revealed that her decisions did not go unnoticed and that one family member did "question" the no kids rule "until they saw the bills start adding up. Now we're all on board ... "
Also, since it is Cruz's big day, she will be the only one in white and has already given her bridesmaids instruction to ruin anyone's outfit if it's white. "My bridesmaids have specific instructions already to dump a whole bottle of red wine on you, so let's just avoid that." Meanwhile, she has also given her bridesmaids complete freedom in the outfit they wish to wear at her wedding, but they will have to adhere to the color of her choice.
"If you were not invited, you're not welcome," Cruz then said. "I will specifically write on the invitation how many plus-ones you get, and that's it. Don't bring random people to my wedding."
Cruz also made it clear she has no plans of "doing the garter thing," adding, "That's gross."
"I already have to kiss a man in public in front of all these people. Now you want him to go under my dress and pretend to...," Cruz said, while almost gagging. Soon enough, her video blew up and she was beyond surprised. "I did not expect it to go viral at all. I post videos for fun," she said, adding, "Sometimes they get a couple of thousand views and then the next day nothing."
She added that she was "shocked" to see how quickly her video went viral, adding that she "didn't expect to have so many people upset at what I thought was common sense (not wearing white, limiting plus ones, etc.)."
In a second video, she went on to share that all her bridesmaids are a part of the LGBTQ community and that her mother has "full creative liberty over everything."
"I don't want everybody bothering me with 'Where do you want this? Where do you want that?' Ask my mom," she said. Not just that, she also urged her guests to "take advantage of" the open bar, explaining, "We're paying so much money for an open bar ... I want you drunk, I want you wasted." But, no one is allowed to drive home intoxicated, and Cruz mentioned that the venue will let guests leave their cars overnight if needed.
"When my vendors are on their breaks, they will be treated as guests," Cruz said for the next regulation. "They can eat, they can drink, obviously don't get too wasted until the job is done ... take home a party favor, take home a centerpiece if you want. You are a guest."
Finally, she concluded her viral rules by banning all "big announcements."
"If you're pregnant, keep it to yourself. If you want to propose, keep that to yourself. Do not come to my wedding day taking the attention away from me and my man," she concluded. "My bridesmaids, you don't want to mess with them, they're scary."
They actually do seem fair, don't they?
Cover Image Source: Instagram/@cheshire_cat_cruz