Carolyn started by displaying the text message, she received from her ex, who is now rightly saved as "mistake" in her contact list.
The confession of a TikToker recently sparked an intense debate online after she opened up about an abusive relationship she had been in. User @ccarollynn shared a list of absurd rules her former boyfriend had sent her before she left for a colleague and the content will leave you appalled. Carolyn started by displaying the text message, she received from her ex, who is now rightly saved as "mistake" in her contacts. "I thought it would be funny to read the rules my crazy, controlling ex-boyfriend sent me before I left for college," she said in the viral clip which had been viewed over 2.9 million times.
"Rules for Carolyn: PAY ATTENTION," was the title of the text message, according to the Independent, which goes on to list 11 so-called rules that Carolyn is expected to follow. "Never turn off your life360, find my iPhone, or Snap location," was just the first of many controlling rules, he had created. "Approve all outfits you wear past me and my mom," "do not come in contact with boys by 25 or more feet," "absolutely no drinking," "no crop tops or tight clothing," "be in your dorm by 9 pm every night and FaceTime me so I know you are alone," read the next five rules.
The rest of the rules were no better as it read: "No frat parties, house parties, dorm parties, etc," "no wearing other boys clothing," "no comparing hand sizes with other boys, hugging, kissing, etc"; and finally "never take off the ring I gave you." It's possible that the former boyfriend was somewhat aware of how unreasonable he was being with the set of instructions that he had sent as he asked Carolyn not to ignore him after reading his message. In the video, the TikToker shared her thought about each of the rules as she read them. "I don't see what you or your mom have to do with what I wear, thanks," she said pointing at the rule about her clothes.
not all of the comments, but definitely some i wanted to address. this is a safe place to talk with no blame assigned ❤️♬ original sound - Carolyn
"I guess I don't go to classes with boys or boy professors anymore, sorry – dropping out... Rule number five – no drinking – guess I’m dying of dehydration I guess," she continued sarcastically as she addressed few other instructions on the list. For some, the list was hard-hitting as it reminded them of their own experiences with abusive relationships. "This is not just insecure this is ABUSIVE," expressed one TikTok user @lindsaygracerz. Another @justabitalien wrote, "Uuugh this reminds me of my ex. Glad you bailed." A third @hellohalal chimed in, "Every time I think something’s satire and realize there really are boys like this."
The video, which was captioned "I wish I was joking," showed that Carolyn only responded with a simple "WTF" to his ghastly test. In a follow-up video, she revealed that it was at that point that she realized she "didn't want to be in the relationship anymore – I made that very clear." Carolyn also made sure that the boy's parents were involved in the matter. "I did notify his parents that I said that, and that any responsibility would now fall on them because I made them aware. And then I did block him on absolutely everything. I do not stand for anybody to be mentally abused, physically abused... it is never okay," she told everyone.
Reply to @frankiexxleigh i didn’t want to get into too much detail :) but is a short summary ❤️ please talk to somebody if you need to!!♬ original sound - Carolyn
"There [are] so many resources available, please do not stay in a situation that you do not want to be in, that you should not be in, you all deserve so much better than that ... there [are] so many resources available, please utilize them," added the TikTok user. Ever since then, she has dedicated many of her videos to raising awareness surrounding the subject of domestic violence and abuse. She has also made it a point to share resources that would help such victims.
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