The woman said that someone as handsome as he is should be with someone like her, and not the bride-to-be.
Reddit user creepystuffthrow is a plus-size woman who is engaged to someone whom she describes as a “smoking hot man.”
The woman took to Reddit to share how her friend made rather rude remarks about her appearance and even questioned why her attractive fiance was going to marry someone like her. The OP described herself as someone who isn't conventionally good-looking whereas her partner looks like a model. Her friend had the audacity to say that the attractive man should date her instead of the bride-to-be!
OP explained that the man named Mike has been dating her for 5 years now. Her friend Julie is an attractive woman who is an aspiring influencer, and she and Julie have been friends since they were 10 years old. She wrote: Mike sat me down two days ago and he looked very grim. I asked him what was wrong and he handed me his phone to show me a message thread with Julie where he asked for help planning his proposal. It started off fairly innocently where she asks questions about things such as the ring, locale. After that, she sent him questions like if he really wants to marry me due to my weight and health conditions (I have PCOS and fibro.) Mike has been helping me with diet and exercise, and I've lost over 120 pounds. She's well aware of his encouragement and support, so this came out of left field. He said yes and went back to trying to plan when she started bringing up my "flaws," like my skin not being constantly clear or my slightly crooked nose. He flat out asked her what she's implying, and she said that someone as handsome as he is should be with someone like her, not me.
Mike told Julie that "she wasn't intelligent enough to be attracted to and her interests were vapid." She then blocked him. Later, OP messaged Julie but she started making excuses. She "just flat out said that I wasn't pretty enough to deserve him and that it wasn't fair she was beautiful and single. I sent her a message back saying that she was beautiful, but her personality has made her ugly and then I blocked her. Our mutual friends are split; some are saying I should be more sympathetic because she was brutally dumped recently (he cheated and got his affair partner pregnant.) A few are mad that I insulted her as I did. I feel bad because I did insult her and I know that she's always felt stupid compared to me and that I hit her in her insecurities. My Mom and Julie's mom are also BFFs, and this has unfortunately affected their friendship and my Mom is also a little upset that I didn't "take the high road," but she understands that my friendship with Julie was over regardless. AITA for telling my friend her personality made her ugly?"
Most Reddit users were quick to chime in that they supported the OP and there was nothing wrong with how the OP handled the situation. “NTA. I know you all think your responses were cruel but I think they were spot on. She is the cruel one, projecting her insecurities and jealousy onto you and Mike. It doesn’t matter what her problems are, you didn’t cause them.Applause to you and Mike for giving her the shutdown she deserved. Let people be mad, she came for your throat and your fiancé. You two are solid and I wish you both all the love and happiness,” said CrochetAndKittens. “Anyone siding with your a**hole ‘friend’ are just as bad, all I’d do is remind them she tried to sabotage your marriage before it even started. She tried to steal your happiness,” added Give-Me-A-Dollar-Now. Agreed?
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