The 47-year-old mother-of-two admitted she now has very different feelings about intimacy than she did when she was younger.
Drew Barrymore is being very honest about how she feels about sex and intimacy. The 47-year-old mother-of-two recently admitted she doesn’t “need” sex because she’s learned that physical intimacy doesn’t “mean” love. On her talk show last month the actress confessed she can go “years” without sex, reports ET Online. She revealed that she hasn't had sex since splitting from her ex-husband Will Kopelman, the father of her two daughters in 2016. But she did reassure everyone she doesn't "hate sex."
Barrymore explained in a blog post published on Sunday, "At nearly 48 I have very different feelings about intimacy than I did growing up. I did not have role-model parents and I engaged with people in grown-up ways since a tender age! I was looking for companionship! validation! excitement! pleasure! hedonism! fun! And adventures!! Now, because I can’t get in the time machine and change my history. So, I now choose to look at it through a positive lens, which is that I lived! I lived a very rich full life." The actress admitted that being a mother to 10-year-old Olive and 8-year-old Frankie has changed how she approaches relationships, not just with herself but with others as well. She continued, "However, after two kids and a separation from their father that has made me cautious, I have had the pleasure of shifting my focus when it comes to love for myself and my two daughters. I know that does not include a man nor has it for a while. I’ve come to realize through working in therapy (with Barry), he said something and I had to write it down. He said, 'Sex is not love! It is the expression of love.' I have searched my whole life to have words like that to help me understand the difference and now, thanks to him, I do."
The Never Been Kissed actress ended her post by stating that she does not “hate sex” but rather has “finally come to the epiphany that love and sex are simply not the same thing.” "I have just finally come to the epiphany that love and sex are simply not the same thing. I searched my whole life for, which is to be a calm woman and not a bombastic party girl. Also, when you grow up and are in a marriage with kids and you think you’ll only be with this one person for the rest of your life and then that doesn’t happen? It rocked me to my core, to put it lightly. But I am lucky enough to have my cup runneth over in the love department: I have my two daughters, and for the first time ever in my life, I’m actually including self-love, too. I actually really appreciated what Billie Eilish talked about on The Howard Stern Show about how young girls should filter the images and messages of the current state of sex in this modern world. Wow! Thank you for that. We need rebels who love to show us the way."
References:
https://www.etonline.com/drew-barrymore-says-she-could-abstain-from-sex-for-years-191244
https://www.drewbarrymoreblog.com/blog/rebels-who-love
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