"He then tells me I'm ridiculous to assume that after working no stop for an entire shift that he should [not] be expected" to do a chore aka reheat dinner himself when I'm here and I can do it."
Household chores are exhausting, and it's manageable if both partners in a relationship divide it equally among them. But in most cases, the entire load falls on one person while the other gets to walk around freely, and it happens quite a lot in families where one person works while the other stays at home.
Recently a stay-at-home-mom took to Reddit to share an incident that occurred between her and her husband. The woman, who is a mom to two kids, shared that her husband is an ambulance driver who works odd hours and comes home unexpectedly.
But whenever he comes home, "he expects dinner or lunch ready whenever he gets home, whether I'm sleeping or busy with the kids." The woman shared that even though it's exhausting, she still does it because she knows how taxing his job is.
Eventually, it got to a point where it was hindering her schedule a bit too much, so "my mom suggested that I start pre-making meals so that dinner or lunch can be ready when he's home, all he's gotta do is just reheat it. I immediately got to it and went grocery shopping and spent an entire 2 days making meals and storing them in the fridge."
"His response to this idea is "whatever". I was sort of relieved cause now I could sleep properly, the kids' care won't get interrupted, etc."
One day, around 11 pm, the woman hears her husband creating a ruckus in the living room. She was asleep after putting her youngest one to bed, but she woke up to the sound of him shouting for her.
"I rush out and ask what was happening and he tells me he's hungry and wants dinner. I tell him it's in the fridge and just needs to be reheated and he didn't have to wake me up for it. He tells me I need to go reheat it for him. I say no, not happening and he needs to reheat his own dinner."
"He starts laughing sarcastically which got me mad. He then tells me I'm ridiculous to assume that after working no stop for an entire shift that he should [not] be "expected" to do a chore aka reheat dinner himself when I'm here and I can do it. I start arguing with him after he complains I'm not doing enough and refuse to reheat it then I go back inside the bedroom and shut the door."
Even then, the man refused to see where he went wrong, and an hour later, he kept yelling at his wife, telling her that he nearly starved since she refused to heat his food for him.
"I tell him he's being unreasonable to expect me to reheat his dinner when he could do it himself. He gives me a nasty look then tells me he's going to bed hungry and I'm responsible for this then heads out. This morning he silently gets dressed and leaves while turning his phone off."
People soon pointed out that this had more to do with being in control than food. The man couldn't handle the fact that his wife said no to him, people suggested, and it seems like it, doesn't it?
What do you think? Who is in the wrong here?
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