"They had plenty of time to bond together which makes me feel sick to this day," wrote the dad on Reddit.
Editor’s note: This article was originally published on September 30, 2019. It has since been updated.
Genuine relationships that last forever has become rare these days. We look for similarities and some specific qualities before letting someone in our lives. Our parents are the only people whose love for us is unconditional, unquestionable and ever-lasting. But what if you found someone who is real, caring and good enough as one of your parents? Then, it's safe to say, that you are the luckiest.
On this Reddit thread, user u/anonymous150000's daughter found the love and compassion of a father, in not just her biological dad but her stepdad as well. Therefore, she wanted both the special men in her life to walk her down the aisle on her big day. However, this did not go down well with her biological father and he strictly refused to fulfill her wish.
He mentioned that his wife and he separated when their daughter was 6 years old and her stepfather has raised her like his own, after their divorce. But he couldn't come to terms with the fact that his daughter wanted her stepdad to be a part of "the walk" with him.
Turning to Reddit for advice he explained, "My wife and I divorced when my daughter was 6 years old, and my wife had custody of my daughter for the most part since I was too busy working 50 hours a week, she quickly moved on to be with another man 7 years younger than her. I knew from many stories I've heard that my daughter would probably end up being closer to him than me, since not only was our time together very limited but he was a stay at home dad, which means they had plenty of time to bond together which makes me feel sick to this day."
He also went on to admit that he had made his daughter promise that she would never call her stepfather 'dad' and that this might sound immature, "This may sound immature but I made her promise to never ever call her stepdad(dad), that I was her only father and to not betray me. But I have no control over what she or they do in their home. Fast forward to now my prediction came through and she's obviously closer to her stepdad than me."
While he admits that his daughter shares a close bond with her stepfather, he thinks it's unfair to deprive him of his exclusive rights, "Even though I know they're very close, I don't believe he has any right to walk my blood daughter down the aisle. I am her only father, it isn't fair that he got to be with my daughter more than me, her bio dad, and now he wants to take this moment from me too."
He not only disapproves of the idea of both of them walking their daughter down the aisle, but he also threatened her of boycotting her marriage if her stepfather, the man who raised his daughter, gets the honor. "I got a bit angry and told her I absolutely will not share an honor that is meant for me the actual father of the bride with some guy I barely know. She told me he's done a lot for her growing up and that I'm being petty over something that happened years ago. I told her I wasn't going to argue about it and if she wants her stepdad to walk her she can, but I won't be there to see it."
The Reddit user u/anonymous150000 concluded his post by requesting advice from other Reddit users, "I was told by a friend of mine who uses this site quite often that many people have gone through something similar to this with their kids or parents, so I wanted to see other people's perspective, on if it's wrong for me to want to be the only one to walk my only daughter down the aisle," he wrote.
But Reddit users were quick to shut him down and serve him disappointed for his immature fixation. A user also called him an a**hole for not agreeing to walk his daughter down the aisle with her stepdad who raised her to be the right woman.
Here are a few of the reactions that Reddit users wrote on his post:
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