They may never have married each other, but their joy for each other's company and their blended family keeps them together and in love.
Some of the key reasons romantic relationships last as long as they do are attraction and trust. Hollywood's iconic couple Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell's relationship is proof of that. Even though they have not been married on paper, they have been married to each other's souls for decades. Even after more than three decades, their attraction for each other is alive.
"He was so good-looking, but he had no pretense about him. I could tell right away he wasn’t a womanizer," Goldie told People. Theirs is a happily unmarried and blended family, where his stepchildren, Kate and Oliver Hudson, also love Kurt for being a great father. "What really got me was when I watched my kids when they’d come to the set and how he was with them. He was amazing with them. He was such a natural,” says Hawn. She had Kate and Oliver with former husband Bill Hudson, while Kurt had a son, Boston, from a previous marriage, and together they have a son Wyatt.
The first time she met Kurt was when she was 21 and he was 16 in 1968 on the sets of Disney's The One and Only, Genuine, Original Family Band. While there was some connection from both their sides he was too young, she thought. They met again, years later, which is when she felt her attraction towards him rekindle. "...Years later we met up again, and I remembered that I liked him very much when I first met him. We both said we would never go out with another actor so it just shows you never can tell," she told The Oprah Magazine.
When they filmed Swing Shift they just couldn't ignore the chemistry between them. Both had failed marriages behind them already. Perhaps, that is what made them wary of legalizing their bond. Kurt had also confessed that when they met again, he couldn't stop himself from using a pick-up line with her, according to World Travelling. He told her, "Man, you’ve got a great figure.” It could have backfired, but she responded, "Why, thank you."
After more than 35 years together, the date that they will never forget is the first one. The story in itself is the stuff of romcoms. They went to the Playboy Club and wanted to spend some more time together afterward. So, they decided to go by Goldie's newly purchased home. The problem was that they didn't have a key and had to break in.
“We eventually found our way upstairs, looking around at imaginary furniture and we were in the imaginary bedroom, now, and we are realistically having sex,” he laughed and said, according to People, “when the police walked in because we had to break into the place to get in.”
In the three-and-a-half decades they were together, Hawn seems to have grasped at the secrets of what makes a relationship work. “Love, gratitude, compassion, because sometimes every man or every woman will drive their partner crazy. Family. Fun. Laughs. Sex,” Hawn says. “If you don’t nurture that, and remember, you’re done.”
She is also very sensible about acknowledging the position they were in. They were successful and attractive Hollywood stars, and many other people would be interested in them regardless of their relationship status. “Monogamy is a very tough order,” she says. “You’re in the prime of your life, you are attracted to other people, potentially, you have fantasies about that. It really runs the risk, if you will, if you’re not aware that you could maybe screw up a really good thing by doing that.”
They have had a whirlwind romance and raised amazing, successful children together. They are now devoted grandparents. One question that has been asked of them over the years is why they did not marry. "I already feel devoted and isn't that what marriage is supposed to do? So as long as my emotional state is in a state of devotion, honesty, caring and loving, then we're fine," Goldie told Now To Love. "We both have independent finances, we're both independently well-off. We have raised our children brilliantly; they are beautiful people. We did a great job there and we didn't have to get married to do that," she added.
When the couple was rewarded with their Hollywood Walk of Fame, it was done in ceremony for the couple. And they showed their love by sharing a passionate kiss at the event.
"Goldie to you, I owe my wonderful life. Simply put Goldie, I cherish you. All of the stars in the sky or the boulevard don't hold a candle to that. There's no one else I'd rather be next to than Goldie Hawn," Kurt told her that day, according to Hello!