And it wasn't just for them. Living apart was her way of helping bring their two families together gradually.
Actress Gwyneth Paltrow has already made waves in the media for her talents, her entrepreneurial skills and her beauty. But she recently made waves by revealing the secret to her happy marriage with Brad Falchuk. What she says will definitely surprise you.
According to Hello! Magazine, Paltrow revealed how she and Falchuk have been able to keep their marriage so solid and happy — by living apart in separate houses for a year. While this usually is an indication of a relationship or marriage that's on the rocks, it's actually the opposite for the actress and the writer.
Speaking candidly to The Sunday Times Style Magazine, the 47-year-old Avengers: Endgame actress mentioned that she decided to live apart from her spouse after receiving the advice from an intimacy teacher. It was a way to create some "polarity" in her marriage, reported Vanity Fair. And that included staying in their separate houses. So it looks like the old adage, "absence makes the heart fonder" is what worked for them as the two finally moved in together in August 2019.
And here's how it went: for four nights out of the week, Falchuk stayed over at Paltrow's Los Angeles home. For the other three nights of the week, the director remained at his own home with his children Brody and Isabella from his first marriage to producer Suzanne Bukinik while Paltrow took care of her kids, Moses and Apple from her past marriage with Coldplay star Chris Martin.
This unusual setup happened to work for the couple and others seemed to think it too at the time. "All my married friends say that the way we live sounds ideal and we shouldn't change a thing," she added in the interview. Well, if a year of living apart couldn't separate them, it doesn't seem like much can.
The couple first saw each other together after meeting on the set of Glee in 2010, where Falchuk was the co-creator of the show while Paltrow was a guest star, according to US Weekly. A source told the outlet that "things started off professionally." However, it was in 2014 when she returned for another episode that things eventually turned romantic.
According to E!Online, she told the host on The Howard Stern Show, "When you're going through a divorce and you think about going out with somebody, it's a weird thing," she recalled. "So I don't think it's the same as being 23 and running into someone at a coffee shop. It's just different. You have kids, you have divorce—it's just a lot of stuff."
Seeing as Falchuk was also divorced with two kids of his own, the couple decided to take it slow and keep it as low-key as possible, according to E!Online. It was in September 2015 that they went official with their relationship on Instagram with the following post:
"Personally, at midlife, I have tried to accept how complex romantic love can be," the Oscar-winning actress revealed in Goop Magazine, as quoted by E!Online. "I have decided to give it a go again, not only because I believe I have found the man I was meant to be with, but because I have accepted the soul-stretching, pattern-breaking opportunities that (terrifyingly) are made possible by intimacy.”
And soon enough, after three years of dating, the director popped the question and as you know, she said yes. "We feel incredibly lucky to have come together at this juncture in our lives when our collective successes and failures can serve as building blocks for a healthy and happy relationship," they said in a joint statement.
When they were getting ready to set the date for their wedding, Paltrow told Stern, "I think that there's something really beautiful about marriage. And I think that Brad is somebody who is extremely—you know, he's really intelligent and he's very emotionally intelligent. I think he's a really good person to try this with, you know, he's very self-aware. He's got a lot of emotional maturity."
Paltrow then opened up about getting married again to Marie Claire UK, according to US Weekly. “For a while, I thought, I don’t know if I’d ever do it again. I have my kids — what’s the point? And then I met this incredible man, who made me think, no, this person is worth making this commitment to."
Then in September 2018, the two finally tied the knot.
After a year passed, the actress admitted in August, 2019, "Married life has been really good. We took a year to let everybody [in the family] take it in and let the dust settle. And now we’re moving in together this month. I adore my husband. He’s brilliant and deeply kind. I feel like he’s a real equal too. And he pushes me in the best ways. I really like being married. It’s fun."
But she's not the only one wanting to show her love. For her 47th birthday, Falchuk penned a sweet note to his wife on Instagram:
Well, it looks like their year of living apart certainly helped them build a bond and now that they're living together, the bond will only grow. Here's to many more happy years ahead.