Gwyneth Paltrow says that she was “profoundly lonely” before she gave birth to her daughter Apple in 2004.
Gwyneth Paltrow recently spoke about how young children can alter a couple's relationship. The actor spoke about the topic with fellow mom Katy Perry on The goop Podcast this week, saying becoming a parent can even "ruin" a relationship. Paltrow said that relationships change drastically after having kids during her chat with Perry, reported Scary Mommy.
Paltrow has an 18-year-old daughter Apple and a 16-year-old son Moses with ex-husband Chris Martin. Though she went through a “really horrific childbirth experience” when she first became a mother, she also feels that she was “profoundly lonely” before she gave birth to Apple in 2004.
Though her children have relieved her from the pangs of loneliness, Paltrow is not one to glorify motherhood. She is honest about the challenges of parenting and especially, how it can affect a couple's bond. “I’ve looked back now on the data set of parents with young kids, it just ruins the relationship for a while, it’s really hard,” Paltrow said. Perry commented, “I think if both people in the relationship are willing to do the work, then it’s going to be so much easier. If one person thinks they don’t have any work to do, it’s going to be really challenging.”
Paltrow is now married to TV producer Brad Falchuk. They tied the knot in September 2018. Falchuk has two children who are of the same age as Apple and Moses (Paltrow's children) from his previous marriage.
Perry also shared her motherhood experience: “When I had my daughter, that’s when I definitely knew that [I was loved]". The E.T. singer further said that she felt “lost” and like she was “never enough” until she enrolled and went through The Hoffman Process - a week-long residential and personal growth retreat. The process “helps participants identify negative behaviors, moods, and ways of thinking that developed unconsciously and were conditioned in childhood,” according to the Hoffman Institute’s website. Perry's relationship with partner Bloom is now grounded in respect and acceptance. Talking about Bloom, Perry joked: “And animals and babies love him.”
Recently, The goop founder, 50, chatted with James Corden and Hilary Swank on The Late Late Show about the experience of giving birth to twins. "I'm so past this stage, it's so sweet. I have a college freshman, Apple is 18, and I have a junior in high school. Moses is 16," she shared. She was also asked about how she's feeling about an "impending empty nest." "Not very well. Not very well," she said wistfully. "I'm going to be at Hilary's house, just hand me one."
She also spoke to PEOPLE, about sending her daughter to college, "It was horrible. It was truly horrifying," Paltrow told PEOPLE exclusively. "I was sick to my stomach, bursting into tears."
References:
https://www.scarymommy.com/entertainment/gwyneth-paltrow-says-having-young-kids-ruins-relationships
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YP0LJBO7SfU
https://people.com/parents/gwyneth-paltrow-feels-not-very-well-being-empty-nester/
https://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/
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