I won't stay with someone who fails to meet my emotional needs. I'm a strong woman who doesn't have time for silly games in a relationship. Instead, I want to invest my time on someone who is mature enough to handle a woman like me.
I've never felt the need to throw myself at men who don't want me. I know that many men believe in playing games with the girl they love, ignoring her so that she comes after them, doing her best to win them back. But I am not a girl, I am a woman. I don't have time to play games with boys who think they can waste my time and break my heart. No, I am not so easily hoodwinked and deceived because I know my worth.
When you have a purpose in life, it's easy to avoid all the distractions along the way in the form of men who try to use you and manipulate you. See, I know my purpose, I'm looking for true love. I'm looking for someone to love me fearlessly despite all my flaws. I'm looking for someone who appreciates me, values my time, and respects the woman that I am. I'm looking for a man who isn't afraid to wear his heart on his sleeve around me and love me honestly, passionately, and unconditionally because I will offer him nothing less in return.
Anyone who fails to love me the way I deserve to is not deserving of my love in return. I don't care how passionate my man is about me in his head. If his thoughts and emotions never become actions, I'm not staying around. I need to see that he loves me in the way he treats me. I don't fall for honeyed words and false promises, I fall for a man who does what he says he will do, and loves me the way he claims to. The moment I realize that his words are nothing more than lies, I'm walking out. It may hurt, but I've paid a painful price to earn my self-respect, and I'm not going to let go of it so easily.
I am the kind of woman who gives her heart to the people she loves. I hold nothing back from my partners, and I am willing to trust them with the truth. I let them into the most intimate depths of my heart, letting them see me with all my flaws and weaknesses. I love them tenderly, passionately, and wholeheartedly because I want the same in return. A man who closes himself off to me and doesn't let me in is a man who is afraid to love me and trust me.
I'm not looking for someone to fix or a project to work on, I'm looking for a partner with whom to share my joys and fears. I'm looking for a best friend I can confide in, and explore the world with. I'm looking for a safe person to come home to, whose arms I can find comfort in. I don't go into relationships expecting them to end. I go into relationships hoping to make them last. I am willing to put in the effort it takes to enjoy a healthy, loving relationship, but if my man doesn't invest in me, I'm out the door. He'll realize that he should have treasured me while he had the chance a little too late.
Don't get me wrong. Walking away from an unloving relationship is incredibly painful and difficult for me. Just because I'm strong enough to leave doesn't mean I have the ability to push aside all my feelings. Strength comes from being able to face my darkest fears and most painful truths and to accept them. I feel every inch of the pain that comes from knowing I have to move on for my own good. It tears me apart to realize that the one I love will never be able to love me back the way I need to be loved.
But I know that the pain that overwhelms me now will not last forever. My heart is strong enough to heal from the wounds of heartbreak. My soul may feel wearier, but I will have wisdom on my side, guiding me toward the person I know I am meant to be with. I may need some time alone to finally be myself again, but I know I'll be fine. I am comfortable enough with myself to know that I'll be fine on my own.
The reason why I can walk away from someone who doesn't love me is that I know that no matter what, I can find happiness on my own. I don't have to depend on another man to be happy. I'm not dating because I'm afraid of ending up single and alone. See, singlehood doesn't frighten me. In fact, it calls to me, and I welcome it. I know that when the time is right, I'll be ready for the right man to walk into my life. Until then, I'm not going to keep my life on hold or chase after people who aren't worth my love and affection. I'm going to live my life to the full, respecting myself enough to do what's best for me.