Efforts have to be made from both partners to resolve issues in a relationship for it to last. Only one partner can't keep doing the work.
Sometimes, even after making multiple attempts at fixing a marriage, it doesn't work. Efforts have to be made from both ends to resolve issues in a relationship. If a partner feels betrayed over and over again, it's unlikely that there can be trust in that relationship.
Country singer and actress, Jana Kramer, 37, who is married to the former football player Mike Caussin, 34, revealed in an Instagram post that they are splitting after six years of marriage.
"'It's time.' As I try to make sense of a reality I never wanted to believe could be possible again, those words have now become a reality," she wrote on Instagram. "I've fought y'all. I've loved hard. I've forgiven. I've put the work in. I've given everything I have, and now I have nothing else to give," she said. "Please know that I still believe wholeheartedly in marriage, love, and rebuilding. I just can't fight any longer. It's time to heal," she continued. "Thank you for all the love, heart, and support, in many ways you have fought on this journey alongside me, and for that I am grateful. I'll always encourage you to continue the good fight, but you can't fight it alone. đź’”" The One Tree Hill actress had filed for the divorce before announcing it via social media.
The couple has been battling Caussin's sex addiction, for which he sought treatment previously. They had separated in 2016 once but decided to work on their relationship. Unfortunately, they broke up this time because of his infidelity again, as per People.
"He cheated and broke her trust again," the source says. "After fighting for the marriage for so long, she's come to terms with the realization that his patterns were never going to change. The focus now is on their kids." The couple share two children, Jolie Rae, 5, and Jace Joseph, 2.
They split up only months after they released their book The Good Fight: Wanting to Leave, Choosing to Stay, and the Powerful Practice for Loving Faithfully. They had written about what they did to strengthen their marriage.
In the book, Caussin wrote, "I've dated only a few women in my life. Most of my relationships can be more described as 'talking to,' which essentially means we were sleeping together but I never committed enough to get my feelings involved. And when I did commit, I inevitably cheated. I couldn't be alone." He added, "Now, I loved and still love being Jana's husband, but early in the relationship I had no idea who I was anymore."
Kramer documented her difficult marriage with her now-ex via their podcast, Whine Down, as per Us Weekly. They got married in 2015 and renewed their vows two years later, after facing his cheating scandal in 2016. The actress also revealed earlier in 2021 that she still doesn't completely trust her husband, who has had relapses.
“I trust him today. He’s showing up today. He’s showing up as a father, he’s showing up as a husband and he’s living it with integrity,” the actress said in January. "And I had to do my work to continue to trust him the next day after that. And to continue to see his growth and our growth together. I do trust my husband. Can [I say] 1000 percent? I don’t know if I can say that. I just … I trust my husband today," she said.
In February, when a person online told her to “just get divorced already," she fired back saying, "When you don’t know the ins and out about addiction and the work we continue to do you shouldn’t speak on it. We are open because we are helping people do the work to become stronger just like we have. So no thanks. Not gonna divorce a good man."
However, there is only so much one partner can do when the other isn't completely committing themselves to their recovery.
References:
https://people.com/country/jana-kramer-mike-caussin-divorcing-due-to-infidelity/
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