12 Years of Marriage Has Taught Katherine Heigl and Josh Kelley How to Make a Relationship Thrive Despite Differences

12 Years of Marriage Has Taught Katherine Heigl and Josh Kelley How to Make a Relationship Thrive Despite Differences

They acknowledge that they are opposites but that hasn't stopped them from loving each other or working at their marriage each and every day.

Being rich, famous, and beautiful doesn't ensure a smooth romantic life. Most couples work at making their marriage solid everyday and celebrities are just the same. For any relationship to become successful, people have to invest time and energy into it. If you fall short, problems may crop up in your relationship.

Former Grey's Anatomy actress Katherine Heigl also found her marriage in a rough patch with husband Josh Kelley, whom she married on December 23, 2007. Since that point, they have worked on their communication skills to make sure that nothing goes awry.


"That doesn't mean there was a lack of communication," she told US Weekly. "It was just a lack of hearing, and it was assuming what the other person meant and needed or wanted," she said. She gave an example to the magazine saying, "I am a laundry person, I love laundry, doing laundry, I also make my own laundry detergent. So I decided one day, I'm going to do all of his laundry before he goes on tour, and fold it beautifully and put it all in his travel case for him." His reaction was not the positive one she expected.


"I remember thinking, 'I should just ask him what would make him really happy.'" The Ugly Truth star added, "Just recognize what your partner really needs from you, ask them and if you can do that, do that."


Josh had also opened up about their marriage in 2008 when he said that being married to her is "unbelievable". However, there was definitely an adjustment period he went through after the marriage, but it changed him in a good way.

“I thought that [being married] wasn’t that different [from dating], but actually it is so different,” the singer-songwriter told PEOPLE. As a husband, “my mentality changed from being a boyish man to a man’s man.”

Right from the beginning of the relationship, even before they got married, he believes that he learned to understand his partner's preferences.



“When we first met, I could tell that my A.D.D. would definitely frustrate her a little bit,” Kelley said. “It’s like, I would be drawing on paper tablecloths when I should have been engaging in conversation – little things like that. No one ever told me that before. Nobody ever cared. But she does. And I like that," he added.

Josh was initially not ready for proposing to her but she nudged him towards committing to the relationship since she was a monogamous person all her life. "These musicians, they are competitive and jealous of each other. (So) over the phone, because he was on tour, I was like, 'Josh, I've got to be honest. I just want to know where we stand because if not, I might try to pursue something with John [Mayer]'," she said, according to Express UK.



Soon after they started dating seriously and she confessed to him a year after their marriage that she was trying to make him jealous. She adds, "(I confessed) probably a year into our marriage. I was like, 'You got played!'"

When they got married, Josh told PEOPLE that marriage is "about showing someone you love that you’re actually capable of the ultimate commitment."

“We’re madly in love and she makes me excited to become married and to have a family and spend my life with someone. We’re fairly opposite but we also share a lot of the same values.," he said.

The couple has three children, two adopted, together and have settled into their roles as partners and are trying to figure out their role as parents. "I'm just trying to figure it out from one minute to the next, what I'm going to be dealing with," she told US Weekly.



The couple is very dedicated to each other and Katherine can't feel any physical desire for any other man but her husband, she confesses.

"I have no desire to physically hook up with any man other than my husband and have been a serial monogamist from the moment of my first serious relationship at 20," Heigl writes on ivillage, according to US Weekly. "I have never been able to connect with a man sexually without it becoming emotional, without giving a piece of my heart and soul to that connection."


The couple is no "typical Hollywood couple at all." “We cook together,” Josh told PEOPLE said. “She is a great cook. I am a good helper-chef. I’m good with the grill and good with taking chances with certain spices.” They prefer doing domestic things than go out on the town. “We stay in. We cook, we watch Dexter, and I make music and paint. It’s fun," he said about his marriage to Katherine.