Life is a constant journey towards self-growth and acceptance. It teaches us many things in the form of roadblocks and rewards.
We are constantly learning new lessons that come to us at different junctures of life. Some teach us more about us and others teach us more about the world. The deeper insights we gain about ourselves might come to us when we are single than when we're in a relationship. For instance, you could learn to take care of yourself entirely on your own. Being in a relationship might also teach you something about yourself, such as how patient you are. The part of us that is revealed to us when we are in a relationship versus when we are alone could be completely different.
If you are wondering what being single can teach that a relationship can't, here are five lessons you don't want to miss:
You don't need to learn about some lessons in person. Toxic relationships can leave many scars behind, whether you realize it or not. When you are in one, you might not even realize that you are in one even though it's common sense that you shouldn't date someone who treats you badly. When you are single for a while, you realize that being alone is actually good for the soul and much better than being with a jerk.
Sometimes, you forget all the great things about yourself. The passion and dreams you had when you were younger get diluted as you age. Being single for a while will reacquaint you to all the goals you had for yourself. Sometimes, when in a relationship, you might do a lot for the other person, by sacrificing your own needs, even if the partner isn't expecting it from you. And this soon builds resentments in you. When you are single, you don't get clouded by the needs of another person, and you're bound to have plenty of time and energy to explore what you want from life.
When you are alone, you learn that it isn't the same thing as being lonely. You learn to fill the hours with meaningful things. If you always wanted to learn something then you do that. If you wanted to travel, you go do that. When you're alone, you learn to be more attuned to your strengths, weaknesses, needs, and desires.
You might have forgotten to be there for yourself in the years you were in a relationship. Your mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health may have been neglected for many months, even years. However, this is the time to learn to take care of yourself before anyone else. Even on a flight, you're asked to wear an oxygen mask before you help others. How can you help others if you're not okay? If you want to be a strong person, who is reliable and responsible for others, it's important to ensure you are in the best shape.
When you are single, you learn to do everything on your own. If you have a breakdown, you handle it yourself without depending on others. When you stop looking to others for constant support and nurture, you become your own person. You know what you like and dislike, which helps you have authentic relationships. The future bonds you form with others will then not be need-based, but because you have a real connection with them.
Disclaimer: This article is based on insights from different sources. The views expressed here are those of the writer.