As much as you might love your family, sometimes you just need to think about yourself for a while and that's okay.
Every time the new year rolls in, we set our goals and resolutions that we want to achieve. While most people have resolutions such as losing weight, eating healthier or saving money, a mother might have a different approach to what she wants to complete throughout the year. After all, most of the time, moms consider getting their daughter to sit still while she braids her hair or getting their kids to actually clean their rooms an achievement in itself. But now, six moms with young and older kids, reveal what they want to do in 2020 and this time, for themselves, as they tell SheKnows.
“I am definitely leaving behind the feeling of ‘juggle overwhelm.’ Running my business (Terina Nicole) with one child hasn’t been easy, per se, but it’s been doable. Now that the second one is here (14 years later), starting over while maintaining the traction in my business has been rough — especially because I don’t like to ask for help. But ‘delegation’ is my new favorite word! Burnout serves no one.” - Terina Nicole
“I’ve always wanted to train for a half marathon, I’ve always wanted to write a song for a local band, I’ve always wanted to get a tattoo in remembrance of our miscarriage, teach my daughters a different language… These are things I’ve planned to a T but never officially made happen. My husband and I decided that each month in the new year, we will accomplish one of the things we’ve always said we would do. Some things will be smaller, some will take more time, but they will all be us growing, sharing, and showing up for ourselves together.” - Andrea Coonrod
“To start each day peacefully by getting up just 10 minutes earlier to do a quick meditation session with my Calm app, and to try for one small random act of kindness each day. To take a long hot bath once a week, with a glass of wine and some classical music playing, to eat a piece of fruit every day. To stop worrying so much about what other people think. To drink more water. To end each day by thinking of three good things that happened that day. No matter now crazy it was, there are always three good things.” - Kate Jackson
“For the new year, I am going to make a more conscious effort to be kinder to myself. I am going to be okay with failing at some things and being successful at other things. I want to change how I think others see me. Rejection is ok, and everyone won’t like what you say and do. I’m going to start loving the body I’m in more and not hang on to what I wish I looked like. I’m going to leave self-doubt behind. Self-doubt leads to procrastination, and procrastination leads to missed opportunities.” - Erika Hardison
“I resolve to dance with my husband. Dancing is a lost art of connection and flirtation and closeness and a good judge of being in sync with each other. I’ve lined up a couple dance lessons and a couple dance events including a Victorian tea and a Colonial Ball. Dancing forces us to walk away from phones and computers and be present with each other. It forces us to focus on each other’s breathing and movements. It gives us opportunity to smile, to laugh, and to flirt. It’s going to be the BEST year.” - Jen
“In 2020 I resolve to let my hair down more! I work really, really hard as a new first time mom (to the most amazing little boy), a full-time nurse practitioner, a full-time doctoral student, plus all my other roles and ‘adulting’ responsibilities. I’ve learned that not only do I deserve to enjoy myself and relax; I also have to prioritize it in order to function as the highest version of myself. I’m also bringing along better discipline, efficiency, and courage. Life is short, so I’m taking each day by the horns, good or bad, with the knowledge that I am resilient and that I can make progress even if it is just one small step each day.” - Unakem
2020 is the year to let go and enjoy life. But most of all, it is the year to just take care of yourself, especially if you're a mom. After years of constantly running around with a never-ending list of errands and catering to everyone, make a promise to yourself that you will take some time just for you. Whether it's because you need a break from the chaos or to rediscover your identity, allow it to happen. You might just find the key to your happiness.