Physical intimacy in a relationship is one of the most important parts of it and if you don't feel satisfied it can harm your relationship eventually.
In every relationship, a strong mental, emotional, and physical bond can make both the partners happy with each other. Ignoring any one of them for the other is likely to create problems in the relationship. Sometimes, the physical bond can go unnoticed while that might be the one that requires most communication. It might be hard for some women to address their needs and thus it makes intercourse a tricky ground to be on.
Sometimes, we could be focusing on the myths propagated by popular media or even those around us. They might be keeping you from having the best possible intimacy with your partner. So, here are some myths that people commonly believe that are definitely untrue. If you want to start enjoying physical intimacy better, busting these myths is the first step.
You know all those movie scenes that show a woman reaching climax all too quickly after a few thrusts? That isn't entirely true. In fact, at least 75% of women don't achieve an orgasm through penetration alone. They need more stimulation than that, Kim Wallen, professor of behavioral neuroendocrinology at Emory University, told ABC. A study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy said that almost 37% of women said that they can't orgasm unless there was some kind of stimulation. Once, you stop worrying about not being able to orgasm through penetration alone and explore other methods, you can enjoy intercourse more.
Physical intimacy isn't just about intercourse and orgasm. There is a lot more to it, including kissing, hugging, and sensual massage. It is also about oral stimulation, manual stimulation, etc., Moushumi Ghose, a sex therapist and author of Classic Sex Positions Reinvented told HuffPost. If you believe that physical intimacy is only about attaining a climax, it might be time for trying new things and broaden your understanding of the act. From watching intimate movies together to role-playing and sharing fantasies, it can help liven up things in the bedroom.
Thanks to media and adult entertainment, there are misconceptions that only women with certain kinds of body types can enjoy sexual acts. Firstly, all bodies are beautiful and secondly, anyone can enjoy intercourse. Men don't fixate on the flaws in a woman's physical appearance. What's important is the emotional connect as well. Diana Wiley, a marriage and family therapist and sex therapist in Seattle, told HuffPost that she tells her female clients to learn to love their bodies first. They will find it easier to accept the love from men when they love themselves first.
Self-pleasuring doesn't reduce the chances of orgasming with a partner. Instead, it helps a woman know her pleasure points. It's the best way to find out what kind of stimulation works best for you, Holly Richmond, a somatic psychologist and certified sex therapist, told Allure. Once you know how to pleasure yourself and share that information with your partner, they will be able to give you pleasure better. "The more orgasms you have, the better you’re going to know how to get there, the more you’re going to want them, and the more you understand yourself," Dr. Richmond says.
Many of us might be guilty of doing this at least a couple of times. When we fake orgasms, we propagate the myth that penetration alone is enough to orgasm and we continue to send bad techniques into the world. Amanda Luterman, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sexuality, teaches her clients that faking orgasms is a kind of lying. Not only are we ignoring our own satisfaction but when our partner does find out they are likely to be hurt about it.
What's that one myth about physical intimacy that has stopped you from enjoying intercourse?
References:
https://www.huffingtonpost.in/entry/sex-myths_n_58ecf99ee4b0ca64d91985f1
https://www.allure.com/story/female-orgasm-myths
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0092623X.2017.1346530
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