October 15 is observed as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day across the world to help the families who had miscarriages or lost their babies in any other way heal their wounds.
Losing a child can be one of the worst things that can happen to a family. Even though the pain a family feels is unique, it can be shared instead of suffering in silence, which is why October 15 is observed as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day across the world.
There are many families who have lost a child through pregnancy loss and infant death, which includes, but is not limited to, miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, and the death of a newborn. In fact, at least one in 10 of known pregnancies end in miscarriage, according to estimates from the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists and the Mayo Clinic. Yet, people believe that miscarriage is not common, leaving them feeling alone when it happens.
Gradually, communities are coming together to remember their lost little ones because they believe that even though they were miscarriages or were born still, or were lost in any other way, they deserve to be acknowledged. The grief they feel as parents and as a family is easier when they are allowed to express the pain and trauma of losing their child.
Whether people observe the day privately or as part of a community there are many ways to show support. From candlelight vigils to walks and other ceremonies, people come together to share their heartbreak together.
A woman in California went viral last year after a photoshoot showing her seven angel babies, referred to children who were taken too soon. For a family photo, they posed with their two children while also showing seven shadowy outlines of young children.
"I felt empty inside. I remember reaching out to some girlfriends. To my surprise, their reaction wasn't what I was hoping for. I left feeling more empty and unsupported," she wrote on her blog, Billings Clan.
October 15 is meant to ensure that the pain felt by these mothers, fathers, and families do not go unheard. It has been observed since October 1988, when President Ronald Reagan designated October as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, according to National Day Calendar.
There have been celebrities who opened up about their loss over the years and helped ease other mothers feel a little less alone in their loss. Beyoncé spoke about hers in her 2013 HBO special, Life is But a Dream, according to HuffPost. The singer described the difficult time as"the saddest thing I've ever been through." The singer has been blessed with two children since then. Actress Courtney Cox also shared about her miscarriage way back in 2004 when she said that it is difficult for her to keep the babies. Fortunately, she was blessed with one daughter, Coco. For Nicole Kidman too, it was hard to have a baby. "From the minute Tom and I were married, I wanted to have babies. And we lost a baby early on, so that was really very traumatic. And that's when we would adopt Bella," the actress said in 2007.
Actor James Van Der Beek opened up about how his wife had three miscarriages in an Instagram post. "We need a new word for it. 'Mis-carriage', in an insidious way, suggests fault for the mother - as if she dropped something, or failed to 'carry.' From what I’ve learned, in all but the most obvious, extreme cases, it has nothing to do with anything the mother did or didn’t do. So let’s wipe all blame off the table before we even start," he said.
When anyone opens up about it they probably want to make it easier for them and others who are going through this difficult experience. Whether the person is a celebrity or not, the pain is as much.
Here's remembering the children we lost too soon. You're always in our hearts.