A royal member speaking up about miscarriages is a big deal since society still hasn't opened up to such conversations. But it's in difficult times like this that families resolve differences.
While the idea of bringing a human being into this world is a life-changing experience for a mother, at the same time, the loss of a baby even before she can hold it in her arms sucks the life out of her. The pain is not just physical but mental as well as emotional. Most women all around the world have endured this misfortune, even the Duchess of Sussex, Meghan Markle.
In an article she wrote for The New York Times, Meghan opened up her heart to the world as she spoke about her miscarriage. She decided to let the world know what she went through because she knew it "would resonate with so many — new moms and older ones, and anyone who had, in their own way, been silently suffering." The former actress didn't shy away from giving a detailed insight into the tragedy that she and Harry had been endured.
She revealed, "It was a July morning that began as ordinarily as any other day: Make breakfast. Feed the dogs. Take vitamins... Throw my hair in a ponytail before getting my son from his crib. After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right."
"I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second. Hours later, I lay in a hospital bed, holding my husband’s hand. I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears...," she continued. She further added that watching her "husband’s heart break as he tried to hold the shattered pieces of mine," made her realize that the only way to start the healing process was to ask oneself if they are "OK."
A lot of support was showered on the royal couple by people who understood their pain but out of all of that, it was Prince William and Kate Middleton's support that made the difference. Them extending their arms for Prince Harry and Meghan to lean on comes after the reports of an alleged rift between the brothers that began when Prince Harry and Meghan decided to step down as senior royals, as per Express UK.
Even though there were claims that the brothers weren't on speaking terms for a while, in the wake of the tragedy, they seem to have reconciled. “I’m told that William and Kate were in touch with Harry and Meghan when this happened in July. The whole family has reached out to offer support," revealed royal expert and author of Kate: The Future Queen, Katie Nicholl, to OK! Magazine.
"I don’t know if the royal family were aware she was set to go public with this but they would think it was a hugely brave thing to do. I do think a situation like this is what will help heal rifts and bring the family back together. Hard times like this encourage communication.”
No matter what their personal issues might be, they have always taken out time to reach out to each other. Omid Scobie, who wrote the recent biography Finding Freedom of Harry and Meghan, told the outlet, “I know that Harry and William had many private conversations when their father was ill with Covid. Similarly, with Meghan’s miscarriage, it’s understandable that this tragedy would cause the foursome to stay in touch and check in on one another.”
Meghan's mother helped the royals get through the trying times as well. Speaking to Us Weekly, a royal source disclosed that Meghan's mother, Doria Ragland, was there for the couple while they grieved the loss of their child. "She’s guiding Harry and Meghan—helping them heal and come to terms with their painful loss, but for anyone who has suffered from a miscarriage, it’s something you never fully get over. Harry told them (his family) early on when it happened, but as it’s such a private matter, they kept it to themselves," as the source.
The source added that Prince Charles too has been an emotional support to Prince Harry. "[Prince] Charles, in particular, has been supporting the couple through their grief and regularly checks in on them."
References:
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/11/25/opinion/meghan-markle-miscarriage.html
https://www.ok.co.uk/royal/royal-news/prince-harry-meghan-markle-loss-23080680
