When you're alone, you can be any way you want with your partner. But when in front of your family, the way you are together can say a lot.
When you get into a relationship with your partner, it's not just them you have to adjust to. Meeting their friends and bonding with their family is just as important to your relationship. But how do the two of you act around them? Are you awkward with each other or do you continue to be affectionate the way you do at home? The way you both behave around your partner's family can reveal a lot about your relationship.
If there's a sense of stiffness and awkwardness around your partner while visiting your families, it's a sign that there's a disconnect between you and your partner. If they can't show how they feel about you in front of your parents, then it could be that they aren't as serious about you and are trying to avoid showing your family any bond between the two of you. As a result, both of you just end up being formal and don't express any form of affection towards each other. However, it might be best to have a sit down with them in private and ask them what the real issue is. It could also be that they're not used to showing such emotion in front of others or are shy in front of your parents.
If you find yourself constantly getting annoyed by everyone in your family, including your partner, it could be a sign that there is some emotional baggage with your family that you've been carrying since childhood. And now, it's affecting your relationship. If you grew up with parents who were always judging you or tried to make you bend to their will, as an adult, you fight any form of authority. Especially if you feel like your parents are going to reprimand you for your choice of partner, no matter how old you are, it can make your irritation rise, even with your partner. You just want to prove to your parents that you are your own person.
If you and your partner behave the exact same way in front of your family the way you do when you're alone with each other, it's a sign of positive family influence on your relationship. You and your family have a good relationship, one where they let you just be yourself and in fact, support you in resolving any issues that arise. It is for this reason, your partner might feel welcome by your family as well and treat them like their own. This sort of uplifting behavior gives both you and your partner the knowledge that no matter what happens, you will have someone to genuinely help you out when you need. And this can strengthen the bond between you two.
If you are completely and openly affectionate to your partner, no matter who is present and actually tend to ignore them in favor of your significant other, it's a sign that you have stopped caring about what others think of your relationship. You are no longer the young child who worried about what your parents, siblings, or relatives had to say. You know exactly what you want and that is your partner. Even if those around you are uncomfortable with the kind of affection you display with your partner, you don't really care because your partner matters more and you aren't always bothered whether your close ones accept them or not — that's how strong your bond is with your partner.
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