Whether he wants to try new things or refuses to help you at all, everything he does in the bedroom is reflective of how he is in the relationship too.
Couples navigate through emotional minefields every day when the relationship is not at its best, but when you're with the right person communicating can be a lot easier. With easier communication, also comes better intimacy. Whether you're communicating or not, there are some clues that you can always get from how a man is in the bedroom. If he's kind and generous or just focused on himself, a lot can be gleaned from his bedroom attitude and how he treats you during intercourse.
One of the primary things you can figure out from your physical intimacy is the health of your relationship as well. If you're having fun in the bedroom and intercourse comes easily to you, your relationship is probably in top-notch shape. However, if you're not being intimate at all or find reasons to skip, you need to examine things about the relationship and the person. When you're with the right person, there are some things that will just click.
Here are six things that he does in the bedroom that can be telling you if he's the right partner for you or not:
Sexual connection is probably as important to a man as an emotional one is to a woman. When he feels sexually connected with his spouse or partner, he wants to be generous. Her pleasure becomes a top priority for him. However, if he feels disconnected from you for whatever reason, he will less likely to be focused on your pleasure. Instead of spending time in the bedroom, if he's substituted it with working more and watching TV at home, there are more efforts you need to make to connect with each other. If regardless of you communicating, he still doesn't want to help you, then he's not the right partner, according to MindBodyGreen.
At the beginning of a relationship, everyone is a little nervous about being naked in front of a new person. It could take a few weeks for you to not feel the discomfort. However, if you still feel that way after months and years together, it could mean that you don't trust your partner. While this might also be a sign of low self-esteem, your lack of trust in your partner could also be the reason, according to Bustle. If he doesn't show you affection and make you feel safe, he may not be the one for you.
No one person's moment of climax should be of more importance than the other's. He should be thinking of making you experience pleasure as much as you think about his. Not doing so will make you resentful of him. Those in happy relationships care about each other's orgasm and pleasure because making their partner happy is important to them, according to GQ. So, when a man thinks only of himself and not you, he is not focused on making you happy. He always puts himself first in the relationship.
Only when a couple is happy and stable together, do they think of adding the kinky to the repertoire. "Being adventurous in bed can be a sign that you are open and comfortable," therapist Kimberly Hershenson tells Bustle. "You and your partner trust each other and feel like you can share openly and honestly," she says. He feels comfortable in your presence and has opened up enough to share that he would like to try different things without feeling embarrassed. This means that your relationship is moving forward and if you feel just as comfortable with him, this could be the right guy for you.
Men are taught to be expressive sexually than emotionally, so seeking more action could be his way of wanting to connect with you. If he wants to have intercourse every single night, it is more likely less about him being turned on and more about seeking attention, according to RedMag. It is a good thing that he wants you more. The relationship is going well if the fire is still alive between the sheets and in your hearts.
There might be days when you're just not feeling it while he is in the mood, so you say no when he wants to initiate things. If he accepts and understands that without making you feel guilty or complaining about it, you're with a good partner. He is a supportive person who doesn't think that being in a relationship guarantees intercourse on demand.
References:
https://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/mens-perspective/g1440/males-body-language/?slide=3
https://www.gq.com/story/happy-couple-sex-secrets
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