Finding the right spot can be hard but once you do find it, the pleasure can be immense. Finding the right spot in itself is a fun activity too.
The clitoris is the pleasure center of your vulva and extremely important for climaxing for women. Multiple parts of a woman's body contribute towards getting her turned on and interested in intercourse, including her mind, but that is only how you start things. When you want to finish, the clitoris is the go-to place. However, apart from this, there are many other things about it that are not known commonly. For instance, it's the only organ that exists only for pleasure.
Even when it can lead to so much pleasure, people are mostly unaware of where it is. Both men and women are mostly at a loss about its exact location when it can actually enhance the experience for both partners exponentially.
Here are 6 things you wish you knew about the clitoris earlier:
The clitoris is the most nerve-rich part of the vulva, Dr. Debra Herbenick, a sexual health educator from The Kinsey Institute, told Health. It contains around 8,000 nerve endings which makes it very sensitive and pleasurable. It has twice as many nerve endings as the penis. The sensitive zone also extends to 15,000 other nerves in the pelvis. It can feel like you're being shaken to your core during your orgasm. And yet, one in 10 women have never had an orgasm and most might find it hard to orgasm with a partner at some point, according to Guardian.
Each woman has different needs to make her feel satisfied. Stimulating different parts of her would depend on her unique biology and preference. "Just because it's sensitive doesn't mean everyone wants it to be stimulated directly," Herbenick says. Some women prefer touching near the clitoris but not on it because it is too sensitive for direct stimulation.
The clitoris also gets erect in its own way though comparing it with a penis' erection is not the best idea. However, when it has been stimulated and there's blood pumping faster it becomes hard that might seem like a tiny erection. With an increase in arousal, it becomes harder but wouldn't stand to attention like a penis, according to Bustle. It ranges in size from 7-12 cm in length and can increase by 50 to 300% when aroused. The change doesn't happen quickly but more gradually, according to the Guardian. The arms of the clitoris's body extend towards your thighs when at rest and when aroused it curls around.
People have obscured the clitoris by calling it the G-spot and making it seem like a mystery. However, your clitoris is the G-spot. Dr. Rebecca Chalker, Professor of Sexology at Pace University and author of The Clitoral Truth, told Health that in the 1980s the G-spot was sensationalized and the idea that only if you "find" the spot can you lead to female orgasm. However, for some women stimulating the clitoral complex creates more pleasure. Each woman might like to be touched differently and finding the right way can be a fun activity.
Unlike the penis, the clitoris' size doesn't matter. It can come in different shapes and sizes. Chalker explains that the brain is the main sex organ and the genitals are only the receptors. "It has to do with visual, tactile, and oral stimulation," Chalker says, "rather than the actual size of the clit. So while glans may vary from woman to woman, this shouldn't affect the pleasure-potential." The size is unlikely to matter to your partner as well.
Your clitoris has a self-imposed limit and when you cross it, it is not going to be pleasurable. The clitoris might hurt slightly when it has reached maximum pleasure. It will reject more stimulation and might start hurting. So, don't get panicked when that happens since your body is only recuperating for later, according to Bustle.