Valerie Bertinelli is now looking forward to a life filled with joy and self-love. Every once in a while she does reflect on her past.
Valerie Bertinelli has been candid about her healing process, stating that she had a tough year in 2022 following her divorce from Tom Vitale. The two got married on New Year's Day in 2011, after beginning a relationship in 2004. The pair were married for 10 years. On May 12, Bertinelli formally announced her and Tom's separation alleging "irreconcilable differences" as the cause. In a video that she posted on Twitter in November, she said, "My lawyer just called. The papers are all signed. They're about to be filed." She added, "On 11/22/22, I am officially f****** divorced. Happily divorced. Finally. It's finally over."
She has since opened up about her personal life, from talking about having severe body images that stemmed from her childhood to discussing how women stop loving themselves when they're in emotionally abusive relationships. She is now looking forward to a life filled with joy and self-love. Every once in a while she does reflect on her past. Recently she used a trending sound on Instagram to allude to past trauma. The 62-year-old posted a video where the text inlay read, "Why did you let them stay after finding the texts?" She then mouthed a voiceover that said, "Oh my god. Oh my god. Why did you do that?" She concluded by saying "I don't know."
One of her followers advised her, writing, "You need to let it go and move on. The more energy you put into this the more he is still controlling you emotionally." Bertinelli responded by saying, "I have moved on Maura, thank you. And I find through journaling, therapy and especially humor that I am healing even faster."
The Food Network star also said she's abstaining from alcohol as part of her dry January progress. She shared on her Instagram Stories that she's "happy because I physically feel better. She added, "I'm getting better sleep, but I've noticed that – oh boy – lots of feelings are coming up." According to PEOPLE, she added that she used to feel not so "worthy" in the past. "I have been screamed at so many times and told how fat and lazy I am," Bertinelli said. "I realize…that was someone just projecting on me whatever they needed to project on me, but my part in all of it was believing it, and I don't believe it anymore. But it still doesn't stop the feelings from coming up and the hurt," she added.
"So that's what we're doing today. We're feeling the feelings and letting them go. Giving them a voice," she continued before concluding by saying that "my core is happiness and joy, and it gets covered with the stupid things people say to me that I started to believe."
The actress has some wise words for others who've experienced something similar. "I'm saying this because I know a lot of you out there feel the same way, and you're told sh-t that's not true. It's not true. Someone's trying to dim your light. F*** 'em. Shine bright."
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