"You do not have to forgive to move on," Valerie Bertinelli wrote.
Valerie Bertinelli is educating her fans on healing techniques. The Food Network celebrity shared some encouraging words of wisdom for any of her followers going through a difficult time in an Instagram Story on March 21, per PEOPLE. "When something is toxic, and it's only ever been that…Do your best to heal your way to indifference," she wrote. "You do not have to forgive to move on🤍." The author finished off the wisdom pool with an encouraging note, "You deserve peace.✌🏻🤍."
Taylor Swift's 2019 interview with CBS Sunday Morning, in which she expressed a similar feeling, served as inspiration for Bertinelli. She re-posted a portion of the conversation. "You don't have to forgive, and you don't have to forget to move on. You can move on without any of those things. You just become indifferent, and you move on," Swift said.
Bertinelli's message comes about four months after her divorce from ex-husband Tom Vitale was finalized in November 2022. From 1981 to 2007, she was also married to the late Eddie Van Halen.
Six months after requesting a legal separation from Vitale in November 2021, the actress applied for divorce from him in May 2022, per PEOPLE. She announced on Twitter in November 2022 that she was commemorating the "second best day of my life," i.e., the day she and Vitale divorced legally.
In February, after putting on a pair of pants she had previously been mocked for wearing, Bertinelli shared that the "hidden bruises" she had been carrying were "activated." She shared on Instagram, "I'm giggling because I had a small hidden bruise that was activated today. You can probably hear them because my pants are rubbing together and it makes this particular sound." The Hot in Cleveland actress added, "I stopped wearing them because I was…mercilessly mocked, you know, 'I'm too lazy to do anything about it. They wouldn't rub together if you...'," she trailed off.
The Kids Baking Championship star opened up about what "hidden bruises" are, adding that they "are something that emotional, verbal, mental abuse do to you." Bertinelli noted, "People can't see [them] but we got to deal with [them] every day when they're activated. I'm so grateful the work that I'm doing on healing, is working."
In January, she posted about "finding texts", and being labeled "fat and lazy" in the past. "I have been screamed at so many times and told how fat and lazy I am," Bertinelli said in a video on Instagram Stories. "I realize…that was someone just projecting on me whatever they needed to project on me, but my part in all of it was believing it, and I don't believe it anymore. But it still doesn't stop the feelings from coming up, and the hurt."
Bertinelli is now healing, she says, through journaling, therapy, and especially humor.
References:
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