Looking for the right person for you is never easy. But you might understand why you look for a certain type of person based on your zodiac sign.
Editor’s note: This article was originally published on July 24, 2019. It has since been updated.
When we look for a partner, we look for one who values the same things we do. Whether it's passion, ambition or adventure, we want to know that we have a partner who will join us as we set about to achieve our goals. That's not to say we want them to be our exact copy, but we know that we'll have a better connection with someone who enjoys some of the same things we do.
And you may not be aware of it, but you look for certain values in your partner which are actually based on your zodiac sign.
As an Arien, you value living in the moment. And part of that is enjoying adventures and exploration. Being a free spirit means you look for someone who has that same passion for life. However, you do know the difference between someone who has a zest for life and someone who is flighty and doesn't care about the future. Even with your partner, you make sure that there is an equal balance of adventure and seriousness about where the relationship is headed.
For those under the zodiac sign Taurus, you value open affection and honest emotions. Your warm heart makes you a joy to be around and you put in the effort to make a relationship work. So you look for someone who is just as invested in it as you. However, if your partner doesn't show the same energy that you do, that's when you begin to shut off your heart because you don't want to waste time on a person who doesn't care about communication.
Geminis have a tendency to overthink a bit. It's just a part of who you are. In fact, sometimes it has helped you remain calm under pressure. But you look for a partner who can help balance that out by being open with you about their emotions and how they feel with you. It's why you value community and togetherness. It is also because of this that you tend to get hurt more easily than most. With a partner, you want someone who will understand this aspect of you and accept you as you are.
As a Cancerian, love and affection pump through your veins. You value family and connections with your close ones. But the flip side is that you tend to experience sadness and melancholy just as strongly. What you need is for your partner to help you reign it in and be able to adjust to your seesawing emotions. You know it will take time which is why you look to see if your partner has patience in various situations.
Confidence forms the fiber of your being. You know your value and won't allow anyone to undermine it. But that doesn't mean you don't like to know you're being appreciated. A person who openly admits what they love about you and makes the effort to take care of you when you need it but won't say it - that's someone who will fit you perfectly. They won't try to dominate you but they know when to take charge.
Loyalty and thoughtfulness. Those are the keywords when it comes to being a Virgo. While everyone calls you a critic, most don't see the immense kindness below that exterior. Which is why you carefully choose partners who look beyond the surface and understand that you are quite soft inside. Unfortunately, it also means finding the right person is difficult. It's worse if they betray you because you close off your heart to others for fear of getting hurt again.
Librans are considered to be some of the most easy-going people. You like to know that your partner isn't just a lover, but that they are also a good friend. You want to be able to share your joy with them and sometimes, this could be a bit overwhelming for others. However, your happiness doesn't let that stop you and your optimism will allow you to keep searching until you find the right partner.
As a Scorpio, passion fills you up so it comes as a surprise to others that the true factor that you value is trust. Because you give your full heart and soul to a person, you expect that they will return the emotion. Jealousy can be a thorn in the relationship if you don't trust your partner which is why you when you start a relationship with someone, you take it extremely slow so that you know whether they are worthy of your trust and loyalty.
The way to your heart is not through your stomach but through your funny bone. Your humor makes you the life of the party as you love making those around you smile. As a result, you value someone who can make you laugh or cheer you up when you feel low. Of course, you know where to draw the line when it comes to good humor and insults. A partner who uses jokes to hurt you or others is definitely out of your life.
You may have heard people calling you "eccentric" and in a way, it's true. You have unique qualities that cause others to misunderstand you and they tend to underestimate your true beauty. When you look for a partner, you're not looking for someone to "fix" you. You're looking for someone who can accept every part of you as you are and loves all your eccentricities as well.
You ladies are a strong, independent bunch who know how to handle things on your own. Being on your own is a breeze and you enjoy the alone time. So you look for a partner who doesn't feel the need to constantly be with you and has their own sense of independence. It's almost like a case of "absence makes the heart fonder." It doesn't mean you don't enjoy doing things together with them, but only as long as you know that they are enjoying their own hobbies as you do your own.
Flowers, chocolates, the works. That's what works for a Piscean girl. You are openly romantic and want a partner who can sweep you off your feet. But this exterior also fools people into thinking that they can walk all over you and that is a big mistake. Just because you enjoy wearing your heart on your sleeve doesn't mean you take loyalty, communication, trust and compromise lightly. You look for a partner who can satisfy your fantasies while also understanding that you are not to be taken for granted.