'She wants nothing to do with the man who has caused her and her family nothing but pain and sorry,' she says, while dumping the rest of her abusive husband's ashes into the trash.
Editor’s note: This article was originally published on November 29, 2021. It has since been updated.
Trigger Warning: This story discusses domestic violence and may be disturbing to readers.
Being with an abusive partner is one of the most isolating and traumatic experiences one can have. No one knows from the get-go that they are getting into an abusive relationship, but sometimes, people find themselves trapped in a toxic relationship from which there is no way out. Without an obvious choice, people are forced to deal with all the abuse that comes their way, no matter what form. Ending such relationships, though difficult, can bring back joy and normalcy in one's life.
However, one lady chose to celebrate the end of her abusive relationship by doing something unexpected.
In a YouTube video—originally posted in 2017—widow Marsha Widener bids farewell to the man who caused her several years of trauma and pain by dumping his ashes into the trash. "Peace in, peeps. Now I know you're not going to understand why I'm doing this," Marsha begins in the video.
"This is Don Widener," she says while holding a large black box with a white label stuck on the front. She holds up the box in front of the camera so viewers can see the label with her late abuser's name on it.
She continues, "His family don't want him. His brother doesn't want him around. His kids don't want him (actually, they want him to go in the gutter of the toilet). He drove a garbage truck and picked up [trash] for businesses so we're sending him back to the landfill!" She then opens the box and pulls out a clear plastic bag holding his ashes.
Untying the bag, proceeding to pour it into the open trash can right in front of her, she says, "This is for all the turmoil and all the pain that he has caused my children, [me], and his parents."
"This little bit right here is for all the times he kicked me in the head," she narrates. "Yep, [he] put my head through a window." As the ashes rise back, into her face, she moves away. But, some of the ashes fall to the ground, and Marsha immediately rubs it into the ground, because she "doesn't want him here." She really does want nothing to do with the man who has caused her and her family nothing but pain and sorry, she says, while dumping the rest of her abusive husband's ashes into the trash.
"He is going back to the landfill," she said, and ended the video with an "adios amigos."
Now, being in an abusive relationship is not easy, and people cope in different ways. Maybe Marsha found peace by dumping his ashes, but people in the comment section were all for it. They supported her and some even shared stories of their own abusive partners, and like one person commented, "Unfortunate that the ashes couldn't be dumped in hell directly. The landfill's the next best thing though."
Cover Image Source: YouTube